Met younger guy, still has pictures with ex on insta

A couple of weeks ago I met a guy by chance on a night out. He was really pursuant and chatty and asking lots of questions, added me on insta and then Snapchat. We've been chatting on Snapchat ever since. He's doing a masters in a different country and will be coming back home at the end of January and wants to meet up. His family also live abroad and he spent Christmas with them, he's been snapchatting me the whole time but it felt quite inconspicuous, I mean I get you don't want to be on your phone the whole time you're with your family but a lot of the ones throughout the day have been like bathroom selfies and under the table selfies.

I didn't make much of it at all in the beginning but he grew on me a bit down the line, I thought his curiosity was cute but I also put that down to the fact that I'm older and he's obviously intrigued and it could be a novelty for him (I'm 27 and he's 22).

One thing I did notice on his insta are 2 pictures with another girl which look couply, the last having been posted in August. I asked him about it and he said they broke up 3 months ago. But they still follow each other, they could still be friends, but generally my friends and myself included unfriend exes on social media.

Do you guys think he could have his girlfriend where he studies and he's trying to get a bit on the side for whenever he comes home? Our conversations haven't been substantial or anything, it being over snapchat, and he's gotten drunk a couple of times over Christmas and said let's get married and have beautiful babies. It would probably be valid to mention that the night we met he was with a bunch of his university friends, girls included, and he was openly hitting on me so I'm trying to justify that if he was in a relationship he wouldn't be so open about it in front of his friends.

I'm probably overthinking, do you guys think this is a waste of time?



Submitted December 29, 2019 at 11:31PM

A couple of weeks ago I met a guy by chance on a night out. He was really pursuant and chatty and asking lots of questions, added me on insta and then Snapchat. We've been chatting on Snapchat ever since. He's doing a masters in a different country and will be coming back home at the end of January and wants to meet up. His family also live abroad and he spent Christmas with them, he's been snapchatting me the whole time but it felt quite inconspicuous, I mean I get you don't want to be on your phone the whole time you're with your family but a lot of the ones throughout the day have been like bathroom selfies and under the table selfies.I didn't make much of it at all in the beginning but he grew on me a bit down the line, I thought his curiosity was cute but I also put that down to the fact that I'm older and he's obviously intrigued and it could be a novelty for him (I'm 27 and he's 22).One thing I did notice on his insta are 2 pictures with another girl which look couply, the last having been posted in August. I asked him about it and he said they broke up 3 months ago. But they still follow each other, they could still be friends, but generally my friends and myself included unfriend exes on social media.Do you guys think he could have his girlfriend where he studies and he's trying to get a bit on the side for whenever he comes home? Our conversations haven't been substantial or anything, it being over snapchat, and he's gotten drunk a couple of times over Christmas and said let's get married and have beautiful babies. It would probably be valid to mention that the night we met he was with a bunch of his university friends, girls included, and he was openly hitting on me so I'm trying to justify that if he was in a relationship he wouldn't be so open about it in front of his friends.I'm probably overthinking, do you guys think this is a waste of time?
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