I'm [23M] self sabotaging before anything has really happened

During one of my classes on Friday we were put into groups during discussion to talk through some of the week's topics. A girl I'm interested in was in my group, and we had a really great conversation (among all of us). There were some funny moments talking over each other, and it seemed that we got along really well. At the end of class, she begins to compliment me, asking about my major and interests, saying it is a lot of fun talking to me (this is all happening during the 5 minutes before I needed to catch the bus).

This really caught me off guard. I hadn't talked with this girl ever before but was pleasantly surprised by what was going on. I'm a bit awkward, so after briefly explaining what I'm studying, I wasn't sure where to go next because I was short on time and my caveman brain led me to ask "Did you have a specific question?" quite condescendingly (or so I felt).

We ended the conversation nicely, saying we'd see each other later. I kind of feel like I should have suggested we meet and talk more or something. I can do this Monday, but during my late teenage years my head was filled with PUA shit about closing and all that. I don't really buy it, and given that she struck up another conversation after our discussion I'm probably alright.

But I'm also afraid I've ruined my chances by not being as energized during our post-class talk than I was during class.

I'd love to hear what you guys think about this.

Submitted October 19, 2019 at 11:39PM

During one of my classes on Friday we were put into groups during discussion to talk through some of the week's topics. A girl I'm interested in was in my group, and we had a really great conversation (among all of us). There were some funny moments talking over each other, and it seemed that we got along really well. At the end of class, she begins to compliment me, asking about my major and interests, saying it is a lot of fun talking to me (this is all happening during the 5 minutes before I needed to catch the bus).This really caught me off guard. I hadn't talked with this girl ever before but was pleasantly surprised by what was going on. I'm a bit awkward, so after briefly explaining what I'm studying, I wasn't sure where to go next because I was short on time and my caveman brain led me to ask "Did you have a specific question?" quite condescendingly (or so I felt).We ended the conversation nicely, saying we'd see each other later. I kind of feel like I should have suggested we meet and talk more or something. I can do this Monday, but during my late teenage years my head was filled with PUA shit about closing and all that. I don't really buy it, and given that she struck up another conversation after our discussion I'm probably alright.But I'm also afraid I've ruined my chances by not being as energized during our post-class talk than I was during class.I'd love to hear what you guys think about this.