I feel like I got played and I'm a fool

I have a female friend and back around Halloween I met one of her friends out one night. We hit things off well and started talking. Turns out this girl was recently out of a relationship. The ex dumped her because she asked to borrow $10 for one of her bills. It was just an excuse for him to dump her since he was actually cheating on her and wanted an out.

Me and new girl hang out a couple times and hookup once. I try to set up a date with her but she gets weird then ghosts. I ask my friend and it turns out the ex got dumped by the new girl so he came back and she took him back.

Fast forward about 4 months and they break up again. This time he wrecked her car and wouldn't pay for the damage.

I eventually start talking to her again. We go out on a date and things went well and we start talking. She says she wont go back to him, he tried to come back and she turned him down. I try and hang out with her again and she gets flaky.

The other night her friend invites her to the hot tub and we're all hanging out in there. I start touching her and kissing her. She gets weird and says she is talking to someone. We keep kissing and she says she is talking with the ex again. That they decided to just talk for a month then see what happens. That we shouldn't date right now because she doesn't want to hurt me or lead me on. I told her to call me if she comes to her senses and wants to make something work between us.

I am devastated. I feel like I got played twice. I don't get how she can go back to this toxic cycle and not try to give something new a chance. I liked her a lot and I am definitely hurting right now. I feel like a fool. I feel like I'm not good enough. I could be so good for her yet she is enfatuated with this clown. How can someone be so messed up in the head to keep going back to this same terrible relationship?

I don't know what to do. I'm just so hurt.



Submitted May 22, 2019 at 05:22AM

I have a female friend and back around Halloween I met one of her friends out one night. We hit things off well and started talking. Turns out this girl was recently out of a relationship. The ex dumped her because she asked to borrow $10 for one of her bills. It was just an excuse for him to dump her since he was actually cheating on her and wanted an out.Me and new girl hang out a couple times and hookup once. I try to set up a date with her but she gets weird then ghosts. I ask my friend and it turns out the ex got dumped by the new girl so he came back and she took him back.Fast forward about 4 months and they break up again. This time he wrecked her car and wouldn't pay for the damage.I eventually start talking to her again. We go out on a date and things went well and we start talking. She says she wont go back to him, he tried to come back and she turned him down. I try and hang out with her again and she gets flaky.The other night her friend invites her to the hot tub and we're all hanging out in there. I start touching her and kissing her. She gets weird and says she is talking to someone. We keep kissing and she says she is talking with the ex again. That they decided to just talk for a month then see what happens. That we shouldn't date right now because she doesn't want to hurt me or lead me on. I told her to call me if she comes to her senses and wants to make something work between us.I am devastated. I feel like I got played twice. I don't get how she can go back to this toxic cycle and not try to give something new a chance. I liked her a lot and I am definitely hurting right now. I feel like a fool. I feel like I'm not good enough. I could be so good for her yet she is enfatuated with this clown. How can someone be so messed up in the head to keep going back to this same terrible relationship?I don't know what to do. I'm just so hurt.
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