Should I message a guy I had a crush on in school and tell him?

We’re 22 now, and I haven’t seen him since I was 18. I had a huge crush on him for 6 years of secondary school. We weren’t in the same school (mine was a girl’s school), but we saw each other daily. Apparently he had a crush on me back then (he even asked me out, but I was going through a lot at the time, and his friends were bullying me so I didn’t believe him).

I was going to message him as like, closure, and I feel like he wasn’t very confident in himself so it might be a nice ego boost to know? I always thought I’d see him around after because it’s a small town, and even when we moved away people come back to visit, but I never saw him around, and now it feels like - unfinished business? I also have no way of knowing what way his life went after, just that he went to university, and he met my friends at a pub a few weeks after we left school and took a selfie with them to send to me.

I don’t want him to think I’m being a creep/expecting anything, so I’m mostly worried it’d give the wrong impression? I do feel like there’s the tiniest chance that maybe something might come of it (kinda why I feel like it’d be good closure otherwise), but at the same time it’d be nice to just - resolve any negative stuff. I realised recently I had him blocked on social media for all that time too, so it’s not like he had any way to message me over the years.

I know it’s pretty subjective, but I’m mostly wondering how people generally would react and/or if I do it, what way should I phrase it?

Tl;dr - the title basically

Submitted October 11, 2019 at 12:03AM

We’re 22 now, and I haven’t seen him since I was 18. I had a huge crush on him for 6 years of secondary school. We weren’t in the same school (mine was a girl’s school), but we saw each other daily. Apparently he had a crush on me back then (he even asked me out, but I was going through a lot at the time, and his friends were bullying me so I didn’t believe him).I was going to message him as like, closure, and I feel like he wasn’t very confident in himself so it might be a nice ego boost to know? I always thought I’d see him around after because it’s a small town, and even when we moved away people come back to visit, but I never saw him around, and now it feels like - unfinished business? I also have no way of knowing what way his life went after, just that he went to university, and he met my friends at a pub a few weeks after we left school and took a selfie with them to send to me.I don’t want him to think I’m being a creep/expecting anything, so I’m mostly worried it’d give the wrong impression? I do feel like there’s the tiniest chance that maybe something might come of it (kinda why I feel like it’d be good closure otherwise), but at the same time it’d be nice to just - resolve any negative stuff. I realised recently I had him blocked on social media for all that time too, so it’s not like he had any way to message me over the years.I know it’s pretty subjective, but I’m mostly wondering how people generally would react and/or if I do it, what way should I phrase it?Tl;dr - the title basically