Me (19M) met up with my ex (19F) last night. Had a great time. What now?

Context: we dated for 5 months and she broke up with me due to the circumstance of summer (we go to uni together). Nearly 4 months later, I’m still not over her; we were each other’s first love and I thought what we had was really special. No big betrayal led to the breakup, it was just her struggling to maintain the LDR and my poor handling of a push-pull scenario. What kept me in limbo all this time were the things she said on the way out “I love you,” “you’re the best boyfriend I’ve ever had,” “I can’t believe I’m letting you go,” etc.

I reached out a little over a week ago, in a good headspace, because I thought I’d miss her less and get a little bit of closure. I knew she wasn’t going to reach out, as my friends told her it wasn’t a good idea to a few weeks ago. We went to dinner last night, and I went in with an open mind. I can positively say there’s still something there. We caught up, talked of new developments in life, reminisced, and generally had a great time: nearly two hours felt like 20 minutes.

It wasn’t until we started walking back that the bigger topics came up. To “so why did you reach out” I replied “to miss you less.” She said “I’ve missed you” as well. She said she didn’t reach out because she wanted to give me space. We both said we would’ve done things differently in the summer. She expressed that she was frustrated with how things happened/are. We said goodnight and parted ways.

Overall a very positive experience that ended up raising more questions than anticipated. She’s studying abroad next semester, but we have plenty of time right here, right now. I know what I want, and that’s to get back together with the intention of trying long distance now that I’ve learned to live without her and would approach that time in a much more composed way. But I don’t know what to do from here in terms of opening that door more. Do I pursue, try setting up more dates, or see if she continues contact?

TL;DR Broke up due to circumstances, met up a few months later, can positively see there’s something still there, and I want to pursue it. Don’t know how to approach the situation, though.

Submitted October 10, 2019 at 11:57PM

Context: we dated for 5 months and she broke up with me due to the circumstance of summer (we go to uni together). Nearly 4 months later, I’m still not over her; we were each other’s first love and I thought what we had was really special. No big betrayal led to the breakup, it was just her struggling to maintain the LDR and my poor handling of a push-pull scenario. What kept me in limbo all this time were the things she said on the way out “I love you,” “you’re the best boyfriend I’ve ever had,” “I can’t believe I’m letting you go,” etc.I reached out a little over a week ago, in a good headspace, because I thought I’d miss her less and get a little bit of closure. I knew she wasn’t going to reach out, as my friends told her it wasn’t a good idea to a few weeks ago. We went to dinner last night, and I went in with an open mind. I can positively say there’s still something there. We caught up, talked of new developments in life, reminisced, and generally had a great time: nearly two hours felt like 20 minutes.It wasn’t until we started walking back that the bigger topics came up. To “so why did you reach out” I replied “to miss you less.” She said “I’ve missed you” as well. She said she didn’t reach out because she wanted to give me space. We both said we would’ve done things differently in the summer. She expressed that she was frustrated with how things happened/are. We said goodnight and parted ways.Overall a very positive experience that ended up raising more questions than anticipated. She’s studying abroad next semester, but we have plenty of time right here, right now. I know what I want, and that’s to get back together with the intention of trying long distance now that I’ve learned to live without her and would approach that time in a much more composed way. But I don’t know what to do from here in terms of opening that door more. Do I pursue, try setting up more dates, or see if she continues contact?TL;DR Broke up due to circumstances, met up a few months later, can positively see there’s something still there, and I want to pursue it. Don’t know how to approach the situation, though.