Should I do it this way?

Hello guys, I need advice from you guys you wise people.

I have been seeing this guy for 2 months, we came in strong, had crazy sex, talked for hours, the connection is there both physical and intellectual. He is a highly intelligent person, really hot, smart, popular, artistic, and overall a wonderful person. He met me at the point I was just a server and going to night classes, while he is an established social figure, rich, and have everything, but he has never made me felt I’m any less than him. He supported me thru me going to interviews and just now grabbed the job of my dream.

Everything was great, from talking everyday, him taking me to romantic dinner, meeting his friends, come home and have hours sex, and then it starts fading out, since last two weeks. It is also the high season of his business while he works like an animal for 13, 14 hours/day and come home at 12am. He still checked in here and there but doesn’t message back right away anymore, and the last two times I met him there was no sex. They were late night because he came home late, I came over, we just kind of sleeping together, woke up have coffee together then take off.

The last time I saw him was last Tuesday, I asked to come stay with him because my house was under construction for 3 days. He told me I could stay Tuesday, but Wednesday and Thursday he is out of town and asked me if I want to stay there when he is gone. Tuesday night before I came (he worked until 9), he asked me if I ate, got me food, we stripped off in his outside hot tub and talked hours about everything, but nothing about US. He was as sweet, attentive, caring, funny as ever, and we went to bed at midnight, no sex. I initiated but he turned his back on me and slept.

The morning came, I was with him and saw him going crazy online meeting with people, conference, etc for hours, then packed and took off, just kind of kissing me a bit. I’m super affectionate so I was kind of all over him but he tried to brush me off, saying he’s really busy and needed to get things done. In the afternoon he texted told me I could have the food in the fridge while he was gone.

Thursday night, I sent him a cute text of me cuddling his cat on his bed, no answer.

He came home Monday night, didn’t contact me. I texted him yesterday morning asked him if he is back, he said yeah he’s back and going crazy working again, briefly told me his schedule which has no time to squeeze me in.

I asked him if I can come over to have coffee with him (he lives 2 mins from my house and I used to do that all the time), no answer for a whole day.

Question, should I text him “I have noticed the distance between us, which is totally fine. But I just don’t want to move on without really talk to you about it. “ or just wait for him to contact? What should I do?

I’m not really devastated by this situation but I do really like him, he is super genuine, honest, and he is so intelligent he told me things that help me a lot in my career. I don’t wanna lose him in my life, even if we end up not going anywhere romantically.

Thanks guys! Sorry for the long post! // the only thing I thought I could do wrong in this relationship to turn him off is me talking about my ex husband quite a bit, and may be somewhere within those 2 months I was kind of needy, I was always too flexible and eager to see him.

Submitted April 25, 2019 at 12:51PM

Hello guys, I need advice from you guys you wise people.I have been seeing this guy for 2 months, we came in strong, had crazy sex, talked for hours, the connection is there both physical and intellectual. He is a highly intelligent person, really hot, smart, popular, artistic, and overall a wonderful person. He met me at the point I was just a server and going to night classes, while he is an established social figure, rich, and have everything, but he has never made me felt I’m any less than him. He supported me thru me going to interviews and just now grabbed the job of my dream.Everything was great, from talking everyday, him taking me to romantic dinner, meeting his friends, come home and have hours sex, and then it starts fading out, since last two weeks. It is also the high season of his business while he works like an animal for 13, 14 hours/day and come home at 12am. He still checked in here and there but doesn’t message back right away anymore, and the last two times I met him there was no sex. They were late night because he came home late, I came over, we just kind of sleeping together, woke up have coffee together then take off.The last time I saw him was last Tuesday, I asked to come stay with him because my house was under construction for 3 days. He told me I could stay Tuesday, but Wednesday and Thursday he is out of town and asked me if I want to stay there when he is gone. Tuesday night before I came (he worked until 9), he asked me if I ate, got me food, we stripped off in his outside hot tub and talked hours about everything, but nothing about US. He was as sweet, attentive, caring, funny as ever, and we went to bed at midnight, no sex. I initiated but he turned his back on me and slept.The morning came, I was with him and saw him going crazy online meeting with people, conference, etc for hours, then packed and took off, just kind of kissing me a bit. I’m super affectionate so I was kind of all over him but he tried to brush me off, saying he’s really busy and needed to get things done. In the afternoon he texted told me I could have the food in the fridge while he was gone.Thursday night, I sent him a cute text of me cuddling his cat on his bed, no answer.He came home Monday night, didn’t contact me. I texted him yesterday morning asked him if he is back, he said yeah he’s back and going crazy working again, briefly told me his schedule which has no time to squeeze me in.I asked him if I can come over to have coffee with him (he lives 2 mins from my house and I used to do that all the time), no answer for a whole day.Question, should I text him “I have noticed the distance between us, which is totally fine. But I just don’t want to move on without really talk to you about it. “ or just wait for him to contact? What should I do?I’m not really devastated by this situation but I do really like him, he is super genuine, honest, and he is so intelligent he told me things that help me a lot in my career. I don’t wanna lose him in my life, even if we end up not going anywhere romantically.Thanks guys! Sorry for the long post! // the only thing I thought I could do wrong in this relationship to turn him off is me talking about my ex husband quite a bit, and may be somewhere within those 2 months I was kind of needy, I was always too flexible and eager to see him.