Is it me?

I wanted to share my experiences in dating over the past year to see if there's something wrong with what I'm doing or if my experience has been more or less typical. In the past, I have not done much casual dating at all. I have been in two LTRs, the last of which ended 5 years ago. I didnt start trying to date until last summer. I am a 34 yo dude. Here are the facts:

Went on three dates with a woman I met in grad school, she mentioned that she doesn't do monogamy; I reluctantly bailed.

Started OLD. Up to two weeks ago when I deactivated my profile, I had been on over 30 first dates (stopped counting around then), a small amount of second dates (less than 5) and exactly 1 third date. I had no physical contact with any of them except for 1 one night stand (which isn't what I'm after, personally).

Additionally, I went on three dates with a woman from a class I took before we stopped getting in touch with each other. I also was set up with someone that I went on only 2 dates with. I didnt even kiss either of them.

I'm starting to get a little anxious. What do you all think? Should I have clicked with someone by now? Do I need to try to figure out how to change/improve myself or is this just how it goes? I've been single for what feels like a long time.

Submitted April 26, 2019 at 03:24AM

I wanted to share my experiences in dating over the past year to see if there's something wrong with what I'm doing or if my experience has been more or less typical. In the past, I have not done much casual dating at all. I have been in two LTRs, the last of which ended 5 years ago. I didnt start trying to date until last summer. I am a 34 yo dude. Here are the facts:Went on three dates with a woman I met in grad school, she mentioned that she doesn't do monogamy; I reluctantly bailed.Started OLD. Up to two weeks ago when I deactivated my profile, I had been on over 30 first dates (stopped counting around then), a small amount of second dates (less than 5) and exactly 1 third date. I had no physical contact with any of them except for 1 one night stand (which isn't what I'm after, personally).Additionally, I went on three dates with a woman from a class I took before we stopped getting in touch with each other. I also was set up with someone that I went on only 2 dates with. I didnt even kiss either of them.I'm starting to get a little anxious. What do you all think? Should I have clicked with someone by now? Do I need to try to figure out how to change/improve myself or is this just how it goes? I've been single for what feels like a long time.