I [30 M] think I'm losing my gf [29 F] of 5 months

We met in November 2018 and everything was going so well up until recently. For example, back in February we had a great weekend where we went hiking one of the days and after that she even said that she missed me during the week. Recently though she's put a lot of distance between us. Basically she's been ignoring my texts a lot and we haven't seen each other much this month. I tried to be as chill as I could about it because she did come back to me and check with me and stuff but eventually I has to ask what was going on. I said that I'm feeling some distance between us at the moment and I want to resolve any issues there might be because I really care about her and the relationship. She said that she also felt that she has been putting distance between us recently but that she wanted to sit with it and to see why (not sure what that means), but that she pushed it too far. She said she really cares about me too and she's been acting badly recently. She asked what my schedule is like over the next few days. I said I'm playing this gig on Saturday night which I had told her about way back in February. She said she knows and that she has it in her calendar but that she's not sure that I'd want her to go. I said don't be silly of course I want you to go! So I think she will come to the gig and I'm thinking that it might be a good way to win her back if she's losing interest because the band I'm in is pretty good and a lot of my friends are coming to see us. Maybe I can talk to her a bit but also socialise with the other people who will have come to see me and maybe that will reaffirm to her that I'm a great guy. Or maybe the gig won't be a good place to try and resolve this because I won't be able to give her all of my attention so I'd like advice on that. Also I really felt throughout this whole relationship that I could just be myself around her and she liked me.for who I am, but now that it feels like I'm losing her I feel like there is a lot of pressure for me to make another impression on her the next time we meet. I don't want to have to use mind games or pick up artist tactics because it's not who I am and I don't want to stop being myself around her. But I'm also really terrified of losing her because she is a very capable and kind person and I really don't want to go back to being single again.

TL;DR I think my girlfriend is losing interest in me

Submitted April 26, 2019 at 06:07AM

We met in November 2018 and everything was going so well up until recently. For example, back in February we had a great weekend where we went hiking one of the days and after that she even said that she missed me during the week. Recently though she's put a lot of distance between us. Basically she's been ignoring my texts a lot and we haven't seen each other much this month. I tried to be as chill as I could about it because she did come back to me and check with me and stuff but eventually I has to ask what was going on. I said that I'm feeling some distance between us at the moment and I want to resolve any issues there might be because I really care about her and the relationship. She said that she also felt that she has been putting distance between us recently but that she wanted to sit with it and to see why (not sure what that means), but that she pushed it too far. She said she really cares about me too and she's been acting badly recently. She asked what my schedule is like over the next few days. I said I'm playing this gig on Saturday night which I had told her about way back in February. She said she knows and that she has it in her calendar but that she's not sure that I'd want her to go. I said don't be silly of course I want you to go! So I think she will come to the gig and I'm thinking that it might be a good way to win her back if she's losing interest because the band I'm in is pretty good and a lot of my friends are coming to see us. Maybe I can talk to her a bit but also socialise with the other people who will have come to see me and maybe that will reaffirm to her that I'm a great guy. Or maybe the gig won't be a good place to try and resolve this because I won't be able to give her all of my attention so I'd like advice on that. Also I really felt throughout this whole relationship that I could just be myself around her and she liked me.for who I am, but now that it feels like I'm losing her I feel like there is a lot of pressure for me to make another impression on her the next time we meet. I don't want to have to use mind games or pick up artist tactics because it's not who I am and I don't want to stop being myself around her. But I'm also really terrified of losing her because she is a very capable and kind person and I really don't want to go back to being single again.TL;DR I think my girlfriend is losing interest in me