OLD precedent is giving me pause after 2 great dates.

Hey Guys, looking for some advice here. I connected with this girl online on a dating app last week and we immediately hit it off. She was the one who asked me out while we were chatting, we set up a date for the following day. It went really well and I enjoyed myself and I think she enjoyed it too, because she had told me she had to leave at a certain hour but she stayed over half an hour after she was supposed to leave and she even let her friends know that she would be late. She asked for my number at the end of the date and texted me like 20 minutes after we said goodbye to tell me she had a nice time.

Following day we talked a bit more I asked her out again and she agreed. I went on my business during the day and she wished me good night unprompted before some plans she had with friends. Couple of days later we went for dinner. Date also went really well and we talked about more deep and intimate stuff. It went for around 3 hours and we completely lost track of time. We hugged each other goodbye after I walked her to her place (longest hug ever). We haven’t kissed so far but it doesn’t bother me at all since I’ve dated women who kiss on the first date or on the 4th , but the touch barrier has been broken by both of us several times because we both have like a more open demeanor. I asked her if she wanted to do it again and she said yes and she also told me to text her once I get home. I did and once again she thanked me for the evening. I thought (and still think) everything was going great and I’m really looking forward to spending more time with her. I like her more now than after the first date and I do know that we both want something serious.

Now here’s the thing, I asked her the following day for a third date, she said yes but added that she has to work the entire week (she was off these last few days, thus her availability), including the weekend and that she would let me know which day works for her, later when we are closer to next week. I said no problem. However, in my experience doing online dating, every time someone has told me “I’ll let you know” it never (and I really mean never) translates into another date and they end up either ghosting me or saying something along the lines of thanks but no thanks. What gives me pause about jumping to this conclusion though is that she told me she’s a very honest person and she’s always forthcoming and truthful with what she thinks and feels, so I think if she wanted to just said no, she would have said so either the night of the date or the day after when I asked her out again. What I was planning to do was to ask for her availability for next week this weekend and if she kicks the can down the road again or gives a non-answer, maybe it’s a sign I have to move one, which sucks because I like her and I feel like there's potential there. I really don’t like texting that much between dates if I don’t have something interesting to say. She also said she’ not much of a texter, though she always replies right away when I do text her. What do you guys think?

Submitted April 25, 2019 at 12:03PM

Hey Guys, looking for some advice here. I connected with this girl online on a dating app last week and we immediately hit it off. She was the one who asked me out while we were chatting, we set up a date for the following day. It went really well and I enjoyed myself and I think she enjoyed it too, because she had told me she had to leave at a certain hour but she stayed over half an hour after she was supposed to leave and she even let her friends know that she would be late. She asked for my number at the end of the date and texted me like 20 minutes after we said goodbye to tell me she had a nice time.Following day we talked a bit more I asked her out again and she agreed. I went on my business during the day and she wished me good night unprompted before some plans she had with friends. Couple of days later we went for dinner. Date also went really well and we talked about more deep and intimate stuff. It went for around 3 hours and we completely lost track of time. We hugged each other goodbye after I walked her to her place (longest hug ever). We haven’t kissed so far but it doesn’t bother me at all since I’ve dated women who kiss on the first date or on the 4th , but the touch barrier has been broken by both of us several times because we both have like a more open demeanor. I asked her if she wanted to do it again and she said yes and she also told me to text her once I get home. I did and once again she thanked me for the evening. I thought (and still think) everything was going great and I’m really looking forward to spending more time with her. I like her more now than after the first date and I do know that we both want something serious.Now here’s the thing, I asked her the following day for a third date, she said yes but added that she has to work the entire week (she was off these last few days, thus her availability), including the weekend and that she would let me know which day works for her, later when we are closer to next week. I said no problem. However, in my experience doing online dating, every time someone has told me “I’ll let you know” it never (and I really mean never) translates into another date and they end up either ghosting me or saying something along the lines of thanks but no thanks. What gives me pause about jumping to this conclusion though is that she told me she’s a very honest person and she’s always forthcoming and truthful with what she thinks and feels, so I think if she wanted to just said no, she would have said so either the night of the date or the day after when I asked her out again. What I was planning to do was to ask for her availability for next week this weekend and if she kicks the can down the road again or gives a non-answer, maybe it’s a sign I have to move one, which sucks because I like her and I feel like there's potential there. I really don’t like texting that much between dates if I don’t have something interesting to say. She also said she’ not much of a texter, though she always replies right away when I do text her. What do you guys think?