I (22M) Fucked Up And Cheated On My Wonderful GF (20F). I Want To Atone For What I Did But Don't Know How. Help.

I fucked up. I had a friend over and while we were chilling things started to escalate. It eventually ended in a handjob. After she left a wave of guilt hit me and after looking up some articles on what to do if you cheat I decided to just come clean and tell her what happened. So I called her about an hour after it happened and fessed up. Now our relationship is strained. We wanna stay together but we're not sure what to do. I hate myself for what I've done to her and I wanna make it up but I just don't know how. She says she doesn't want to punish me but I feel like I ought to be punished. I've already decided that I'm going to be doing a series of things to try and show that she can trust me (telling her everything I do with meticulous detail, staying away from situations that may present opportunities for infidelity, showing that I want things to work out by going on dates, etc.). I don't want to lose her. I can't lose her. But I fucked up and I don't know what to do about it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Oh and I should probably mention we're in a long distance relationship.

TL;DR: I cheated on my GF and don't know how to make it up to her.



Submitted April 26, 2019 at 07:05AM

I fucked up. I had a friend over and while we were chilling things started to escalate. It eventually ended in a handjob. After she left a wave of guilt hit me and after looking up some articles on what to do if you cheat I decided to just come clean and tell her what happened. So I called her about an hour after it happened and fessed up. Now our relationship is strained. We wanna stay together but we're not sure what to do. I hate myself for what I've done to her and I wanna make it up but I just don't know how. She says she doesn't want to punish me but I feel like I ought to be punished. I've already decided that I'm going to be doing a series of things to try and show that she can trust me (telling her everything I do with meticulous detail, staying away from situations that may present opportunities for infidelity, showing that I want things to work out by going on dates, etc.). I don't want to lose her. I can't lose her. But I fucked up and I don't know what to do about it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Oh and I should probably mention we're in a long distance relationship.TL;DR: I cheated on my GF and don't know how to make it up to her.

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