My brother (17M) creepy adoration to me (28F)

Hello i’m new to reddit, needed some advice about my family. My family consist of mother, father, and three siblings. i am the middle child. my family is not exactly wealthy and friendly, but i work my ass off until i finally able to find a stable job abroad, living alone.

The problem is my little brother seems to adore my way off life (im not even had good relationship with any off them) and he work his ass getting to go to same college as i attend. he got good grades and i honestly afraid if he got into my workplace. my mom keep asking me where did i found my job etc and now they got my company name because last time im tired they playing the victim.

i really don’t want my brother who supported by my mom to get near me at all. first, his adoration is creppy and second, he doesn’t have any good personality except smart as far as i know. also i am really tired he keep copying me (my parents didn’t trust me etc at first also gender issues while he got example so his path is way smoother)

any advice how to decline them if they finally going apply in my office someday? or better, how to stop them? i’m going abroad so i don’t need to have any unneccesary contact from them anymore and i’m afraid this going to be ruined. any contact from them always either playing victim or blaming other just because i am their child while they doesn’t even treat me well. please help.

TL;DR: my brother always copying me while i tried to move away from my house. At this rate he is going to move abroad and went to work at my office. Any advice to decline in the future or stop them now?



Submitted April 26, 2019 at 05:25AM

Hello i’m new to reddit, needed some advice about my family. My family consist of mother, father, and three siblings. i am the middle child. my family is not exactly wealthy and friendly, but i work my ass off until i finally able to find a stable job abroad, living alone.The problem is my little brother seems to adore my way off life (im not even had good relationship with any off them) and he work his ass getting to go to same college as i attend. he got good grades and i honestly afraid if he got into my workplace. my mom keep asking me where did i found my job etc and now they got my company name because last time im tired they playing the victim.i really don’t want my brother who supported by my mom to get near me at all. first, his adoration is creppy and second, he doesn’t have any good personality except smart as far as i know. also i am really tired he keep copying me (my parents didn’t trust me etc at first also gender issues while he got example so his path is way smoother)any advice how to decline them if they finally going apply in my office someday? or better, how to stop them? i’m going abroad so i don’t need to have any unneccesary contact from them anymore and i’m afraid this going to be ruined. any contact from them always either playing victim or blaming other just because i am their child while they doesn’t even treat me well. please help.TL;DR: my brother always copying me while i tried to move away from my house. At this rate he is going to move abroad and went to work at my office. Any advice to decline in the future or stop them now?
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