UPDATE: I (F22) don't know how to proceed with my family

Two months ago, I posted here about my situation and detailed out the abuse from my mom and sister.

I'm so happy I did that; I've found the courage to open up to my family and told them straight up that I didn't want to maintain contact. I told my brother about the situation beforehand. He was supportive and told me that he would still be in touch. I haven't spoken to said family members, except my brother, for the past two months - and it's been so uplifting. I feel like a brand new person.

Although there's been a few bumps in the road (ie. my mom basically telling all my relatives about what had happened, and now they're all stalking me on LinkedIn), I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off me. I've reached out to my closest friends here about my fallout - and they're all truly supportive of my situation, especially because they know in detail what I had gone through with my family. One of my friends constantly reminded me that it's about time I start making choices that are beneficial for myself, especially after 20+ years of following my family's orders and listening to their criticisms and judgements.

I've started reading at least one or two self-help books for week regarding post-trauma and anxiety. I'm also considering going back to therapy soon to help heal myself.

I hope that everyone who has ever been with toxic/abusive/belittling family members would also find the courage to start doing things for yourself. Please walk away from situations that deprive you of growth. Please walk away from people who do not do you good. Even if it's family members, you don't deserve to be treated like shit.

TL;DR happy now after a fall out with a toxic family, have gained a solid support system from friends who have told me that they'll be my family instead, and now just want to best for everyone

Submitted May 26, 2019 at 06:45AM

Two months ago, I posted here about my situation and detailed out the abuse from my mom and sister.I'm so happy I did that; I've found the courage to open up to my family and told them straight up that I didn't want to maintain contact. I told my brother about the situation beforehand. He was supportive and told me that he would still be in touch. I haven't spoken to said family members, except my brother, for the past two months - and it's been so uplifting. I feel like a brand new person.Although there's been a few bumps in the road (ie. my mom basically telling all my relatives about what had happened, and now they're all stalking me on LinkedIn), I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off me. I've reached out to my closest friends here about my fallout - and they're all truly supportive of my situation, especially because they know in detail what I had gone through with my family. One of my friends constantly reminded me that it's about time I start making choices that are beneficial for myself, especially after 20+ years of following my family's orders and listening to their criticisms and judgements.I've started reading at least one or two self-help books for week regarding post-trauma and anxiety. I'm also considering going back to therapy soon to help heal myself.I hope that everyone who has ever been with toxic/abusive/belittling family members would also find the courage to start doing things for yourself. Please walk away from situations that deprive you of growth. Please walk away from people who do not do you good. Even if it's family members, you don't deserve to be treated like shit.TL;DR happy now after a fall out with a toxic family, have gained a solid support system from friends who have told me that they'll be my family instead, and now just want to best for everyone