How do I end it?

SO. I got out of a long relationship a few months ago. A month after the breakup I(22f) met someone(24m) at a concert who I thought was PERFECT. I really liked him till I realized it was way too soon to peruse anything. We have been talking for almost two months but all we have done is kiss. We have only been on one date and have only hung out in group settings mostly. I really think he likes me a lot more than I like him. It’s not fair to him but I’ve never ‘ended’ anything with a guy. He lived about an hour away for the first month we were talking and would come home to stay with his family every weekend which is when I would see him. Then he moved back to my side of town about 3 weeks ago. I’ve been kind of dodging him since. Two weeks ago I graduated college and he left roses at my doorstep while I was at work. It was really nice but kind of bothersome because I knew I needed to end it. I HATE HURTING PEOPLE which is why I have dragged it on so long. Last week we he asked to hang and I told him I wasn’t feeling great and that I couldn’t. I made plans with my friends and didn’t tell him. (Granted I had an ear infection and didn’t feel like wearing makeup or getting ready.) anyway, I hear a knock on my door and it’s him with a shit ton of meds. (Had no idea he was coming). Cough drops, DayQuil, sinus relief and etc. I felt weird cause he came inside and met my mom. I felt really awkward the whole time and eventually told him I needed to call my friend back and thanked him. I really need to end it. I am terrified to do it in person cause I’m a huge pussy and I get really bad anxiety about this kind of stuff. Is it shitty to do it over text? I’m also not fully over my ex so I really feel like I met this dude at the worst possible time. Can someone help me come up with a text? THANK YOU.

Tl;dr: met this guy I thought I liked but it’s too soon for me. I have never ‘ended’ anything and I don’t know what to do.



Submitted May 26, 2019 at 06:32AM

SO. I got out of a long relationship a few months ago. A month after the breakup I(22f) met someone(24m) at a concert who I thought was PERFECT. I really liked him till I realized it was way too soon to peruse anything. We have been talking for almost two months but all we have done is kiss. We have only been on one date and have only hung out in group settings mostly. I really think he likes me a lot more than I like him. It’s not fair to him but I’ve never ‘ended’ anything with a guy. He lived about an hour away for the first month we were talking and would come home to stay with his family every weekend which is when I would see him. Then he moved back to my side of town about 3 weeks ago. I’ve been kind of dodging him since. Two weeks ago I graduated college and he left roses at my doorstep while I was at work. It was really nice but kind of bothersome because I knew I needed to end it. I HATE HURTING PEOPLE which is why I have dragged it on so long. Last week we he asked to hang and I told him I wasn’t feeling great and that I couldn’t. I made plans with my friends and didn’t tell him. (Granted I had an ear infection and didn’t feel like wearing makeup or getting ready.) anyway, I hear a knock on my door and it’s him with a shit ton of meds. (Had no idea he was coming). Cough drops, DayQuil, sinus relief and etc. I felt weird cause he came inside and met my mom. I felt really awkward the whole time and eventually told him I needed to call my friend back and thanked him. I really need to end it. I am terrified to do it in person cause I’m a huge pussy and I get really bad anxiety about this kind of stuff. Is it shitty to do it over text? I’m also not fully over my ex so I really feel like I met this dude at the worst possible time. Can someone help me come up with a text? THANK YOU.Tl;dr: met this guy I thought I liked but it’s too soon for me. I have never ‘ended’ anything and I don’t know what to do.
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