My [19F] boyfriend [19M] wants to try acid, am I being unreasonable?

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we are in a very happy relationship and we are basically best friends. We both smoke weed, we take edibles together probably weekly, I rarely smoke but have before, and he smokes probably weekly with his best friend. I am ok with weed as it’s legal where we live (Canada) although I actually prefer edibles over smoking as it doesn’t destroy the lungs.

My boyfriends best friends are daily weed users, basically functioning off of it. I’ve been very anti drug other than the basic weed/alcohol, including a no tobacco tolerance as my dad died in his early 40s due to complications that was predicted from his regular smoking, I was only 4. My boyfriend doesn’t smoke cigarettes, but used to vape. I was against him vaping and argued with him about it but ultimately told him its his choice I just don’t want to see him become addicted to it as it destroyed my father. He understand and eventually (probably about 4 months into vaping) his vape stopped working and he just didn’t care enough to get a new one, and hasn’t vaped since.

My boyfriend knows how much I hate drugs, and as controlling I don’t want to be, it’s a huge pet peeve. One of the biggest fights I had with my boyfriend was over shrooms. He approached me and said his two best friends asked him to take shrooms together, and he would like to take part. I went quiet when first approached, but in the end we sat down and talked. He was honest with me and not hiding it, he said he wanted me to know and that it would be a one time thing. He even told me that his best friends encouraged him NOT to tell me, which made me upset but glad he didn’t go off what they said. I told him that if he wanted to take shrooms that it’s ok, and I wouldn’t want to take part but I would like to be there with him, as I feel I will worry. I won’t nag him or get upset, and it was all 3 of their first times and I thought maybe a babysitter would be ok, and he was very excited about that idea. He asked his friends and they were VERY against me being there. They don’t hate me, i’ve hung out with them before and we are on good terms but they felt that me being sober “would ruin the trip” My boyfriend was upset at his friends and told me that if I couldn’t be there, he wouldn’t take them.

But later I went away on a vacation to Palm Springs for a week back in March, and I found out through social media that they were all taking shrooms. I don’t want to seem controlling, that he needs me there if that makes sense. But knowing none of them have experience with this drug worried me so much. He hid it from me this time and when I messaged and asked, he got very angry with me. This made us very tense for the rest of the time I was in Palm Springs. I was worried sick knowing, my fault for not looking up the drug and thought worst case, but he did what he said he wouldn’t. I felt so nauseous that night.

When I got back from Palm Springs, I properly talked to him about it and he talked about his experience and said it just felt like a very intense weed high and that he probably didn’t take enough. We both researched it together and after looking at some stuff, I told him that him taking shrooms didn’t worry me as much anymore, it just seemed like a more intense form of weed and it’s natural.

Now to present, my boyfriend messaged me asking if i’d like to take part in shrooms with his friends, as they were ok if I was there and high with them, they just didn’t like the “babysitter” term. I declined and he got upset with me.

Also to note his best friends also started taking adderall a few days ago for the first time, my boyfriend didn’t join but adderall scares me for a personal reason. I have always had a temptation to try adderall, I have a strong work ethic and i’m an over achiever and a drug that makes you “focused” peaked my interest, but I know how highly addictive it is and I myself have a highly addictive personality (which is why drugs scare me as well) my boyfriend knows about my interest with adderall and how I want to stay away in fear that if someone actually asked, I may accept.

But adding to his message, he also said he wanted to try acid with his friends. I didn’t say anything for a minute but then told him I wanted a few days break to think. Am I in the wrong? I know I don’t have a say in what he does but acid?? All these new drugs are coming forth so quickly, what should I do? or am i being totally unreasonable?

TL;DR my boyfriend has recently peaked an interest in trying new drugs with his best friends but now wants to try acid although i’m very anti drug, am i being unreasonable with him?

Submitted May 26, 2019 at 06:41AM

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we are in a very happy relationship and we are basically best friends. We both smoke weed, we take edibles together probably weekly, I rarely smoke but have before, and he smokes probably weekly with his best friend. I am ok with weed as it’s legal where we live (Canada) although I actually prefer edibles over smoking as it doesn’t destroy the lungs.My boyfriends best friends are daily weed users, basically functioning off of it. I’ve been very anti drug other than the basic weed/alcohol, including a no tobacco tolerance as my dad died in his early 40s due to complications that was predicted from his regular smoking, I was only 4. My boyfriend doesn’t smoke cigarettes, but used to vape. I was against him vaping and argued with him about it but ultimately told him its his choice I just don’t want to see him become addicted to it as it destroyed my father. He understand and eventually (probably about 4 months into vaping) his vape stopped working and he just didn’t care enough to get a new one, and hasn’t vaped since.My boyfriend knows how much I hate drugs, and as controlling I don’t want to be, it’s a huge pet peeve. One of the biggest fights I had with my boyfriend was over shrooms. He approached me and said his two best friends asked him to take shrooms together, and he would like to take part. I went quiet when first approached, but in the end we sat down and talked. He was honest with me and not hiding it, he said he wanted me to know and that it would be a one time thing. He even told me that his best friends encouraged him NOT to tell me, which made me upset but glad he didn’t go off what they said. I told him that if he wanted to take shrooms that it’s ok, and I wouldn’t want to take part but I would like to be there with him, as I feel I will worry. I won’t nag him or get upset, and it was all 3 of their first times and I thought maybe a babysitter would be ok, and he was very excited about that idea. He asked his friends and they were VERY against me being there. They don’t hate me, i’ve hung out with them before and we are on good terms but they felt that me being sober “would ruin the trip” My boyfriend was upset at his friends and told me that if I couldn’t be there, he wouldn’t take them.But later I went away on a vacation to Palm Springs for a week back in March, and I found out through social media that they were all taking shrooms. I don’t want to seem controlling, that he needs me there if that makes sense. But knowing none of them have experience with this drug worried me so much. He hid it from me this time and when I messaged and asked, he got very angry with me. This made us very tense for the rest of the time I was in Palm Springs. I was worried sick knowing, my fault for not looking up the drug and thought worst case, but he did what he said he wouldn’t. I felt so nauseous that night.When I got back from Palm Springs, I properly talked to him about it and he talked about his experience and said it just felt like a very intense weed high and that he probably didn’t take enough. We both researched it together and after looking at some stuff, I told him that him taking shrooms didn’t worry me as much anymore, it just seemed like a more intense form of weed and it’s natural.Now to present, my boyfriend messaged me asking if i’d like to take part in shrooms with his friends, as they were ok if I was there and high with them, they just didn’t like the “babysitter” term. I declined and he got upset with me.Also to note his best friends also started taking adderall a few days ago for the first time, my boyfriend didn’t join but adderall scares me for a personal reason. I have always had a temptation to try adderall, I have a strong work ethic and i’m an over achiever and a drug that makes you “focused” peaked my interest, but I know how highly addictive it is and I myself have a highly addictive personality (which is why drugs scare me as well) my boyfriend knows about my interest with adderall and how I want to stay away in fear that if someone actually asked, I may accept.But adding to his message, he also said he wanted to try acid with his friends. I didn’t say anything for a minute but then told him I wanted a few days break to think. Am I in the wrong? I know I don’t have a say in what he does but acid?? All these new drugs are coming forth so quickly, what should I do? or am i being totally unreasonable?TL;DR my boyfriend has recently peaked an interest in trying new drugs with his best friends but now wants to try acid although i’m very anti drug, am i being unreasonable with him?