My wife is impossible

Reddit isn't exactly my ideal place to vent about it but I have no where else to go.

We've been married for 3 years.

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I've been raising her son like hes my own since he was 6 months old (hes 5 now) and I love him to death. Hes my son... I see him no other way.

For a while I felt like things were going really good. we had this great relationship.

The last 2 years though have been rough. She was miserable working and being away from our boy. I felt like, well... a lot of women do it but I kind of agreed with her that it would be better if she could be home. For a bunch of reasons - her happiness, his development, the fact that I could focus on my work which I was being pulled away from all the time as the one home with him...

So, even though she made more money we decided to make it happen. She quit her job and I knew that if my business couldn't bring in enough I'd have to take a 2nd job. But I felt like it would be worth it if it would make her happier.

I should say, prior to this, she was a miserable person. Like so unhappy and coming home and just bitching about eventing, saying how I never did the "house stuff" right and how she just wished she was home so she could do it on and on.

Well.... we are 10 months in to her not working and I am working like a fucking dog. 7 days a week sun up to sun down all I do is work. She's still unhappy but now she's blaming it on how we don't have a connection and how I'm never in a good mood. But the reason I'm never in a good mood is because the last years has been sexless, no intimacy, no connection and eveytime I bring it up she just tells me something like "its normal for parents to deal with this". and nothing changes. And everything I do she has a problem with. So... I just stay away... I stay working because its the only place where I can focus and don't have someone telling me I loaded the dishwasher wrong.

She has not kept up with the "house stuff" .... in fact that house has been messier than when she was working and I was here cleaning half the time.

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And when I try to talk to her about it it just ends up being... mostly my fault somehow.

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I just don't know what to do. I am honestly starting to feel like I made a mistake with picking her to be my life partner but I feel trapped because I love our son and anytime I think about leaving I just imagine having to break the news to him and I just can't do that. Hes at that age where it wouldn't be nothing to lose his dad. not saying it ever is... but 2 or 3 they don't really know much of whats going on. but he knows now that I'm dad and I'm his rock and I keep him safe and teach him things and all that. So I just can't do that to him.

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I don't know what to do.

Submitted May 25, 2019 at 04:42AM

Reddit isn't exactly my ideal place to vent about it but I have no where else to go.We've been married for 3 years.​I've been raising her son like hes my own since he was 6 months old (hes 5 now) and I love him to death. Hes my son... I see him no other way.For a while I felt like things were going really good. we had this great relationship.The last 2 years though have been rough. She was miserable working and being away from our boy. I felt like, well... a lot of women do it but I kind of agreed with her that it would be better if she could be home. For a bunch of reasons - her happiness, his development, the fact that I could focus on my work which I was being pulled away from all the time as the one home with him...So, even though she made more money we decided to make it happen. She quit her job and I knew that if my business couldn't bring in enough I'd have to take a 2nd job. But I felt like it would be worth it if it would make her happier.I should say, prior to this, she was a miserable person. Like so unhappy and coming home and just bitching about eventing, saying how I never did the "house stuff" right and how she just wished she was home so she could do it on and on.Well.... we are 10 months in to her not working and I am working like a fucking dog. 7 days a week sun up to sun down all I do is work. She's still unhappy but now she's blaming it on how we don't have a connection and how I'm never in a good mood. But the reason I'm never in a good mood is because the last years has been sexless, no intimacy, no connection and eveytime I bring it up she just tells me something like "its normal for parents to deal with this". and nothing changes. And everything I do she has a problem with. So... I just stay away... I stay working because its the only place where I can focus and don't have someone telling me I loaded the dishwasher wrong.She has not kept up with the "house stuff" .... in fact that house has been messier than when she was working and I was here cleaning half the time.​And when I try to talk to her about it it just ends up being... mostly my fault somehow.​I just don't know what to do. I am honestly starting to feel like I made a mistake with picking her to be my life partner but I feel trapped because I love our son and anytime I think about leaving I just imagine having to break the news to him and I just can't do that. Hes at that age where it wouldn't be nothing to lose his dad. not saying it ever is... but 2 or 3 they don't really know much of whats going on. but he knows now that I'm dad and I'm his rock and I keep him safe and teach him things and all that. So I just can't do that to him.​I don't know what to do.