Help!

Ok so throw away for obvious reasons. Well here it is. We’re having issues. Wife told me that she’s no longer in love with me. She says that she had fallen out of love with me a long time ago. Now I’ve been struggling with trust issues. I’ve had problems in the past with my insecurities getting the better of me. Now I’m trying to keep them in check and not snoop on her phone. (She locks it now). I’m sure she does because we had a struggle with it one day because I wanted to see it. Bad choice on me. But any who I was told that she wants a divorce but is praying every day to change her heart because she wants to love me the way I love her. Now I’m confused how do you say one minute you want a divorce then the next minute you say you want me to stay. I’ve been told that im controlling and manipulative. But i don’t see it. I give her everything she wants. I don’t tell her that she can’t go out. I don’t tell her how to do anything. The manipulation I don’t see either. I don’t threaten or say something to get my way. I don’t hit her or anything but I can say here recently I’m a little more obsessed or just trying to claw my way back to her.
Now I guess my problem is how do I control myself from thinking if I do give her space she’ll just leave me and find someone else. Will me giving her space without moving out work? She’s not willing to go to counseling made that abundantly clear. She’s saying she’s done with me accusing her of talking to other men. Now the accusations have happen but not a lot. Sorry so long and all over the place. Trying to care for kids and have a complete thought. Some prayers and guidance may help me.

Submitted May 26, 2019 at 02:48AM

Ok so throw away for obvious reasons. Well here it is. We’re having issues. Wife told me that she’s no longer in love with me. She says that she had fallen out of love with me a long time ago. Now I’ve been struggling with trust issues. I’ve had problems in the past with my insecurities getting the better of me. Now I’m trying to keep them in check and not snoop on her phone. (She locks it now). I’m sure she does because we had a struggle with it one day because I wanted to see it. Bad choice on me. But any who I was told that she wants a divorce but is praying every day to change her heart because she wants to love me the way I love her. Now I’m confused how do you say one minute you want a divorce then the next minute you say you want me to stay. I’ve been told that im controlling and manipulative. But i don’t see it. I give her everything she wants. I don’t tell her that she can’t go out. I don’t tell her how to do anything. The manipulation I don’t see either. I don’t threaten or say something to get my way. I don’t hit her or anything but I can say here recently I’m a little more obsessed or just trying to claw my way back to her.Now I guess my problem is how do I control myself from thinking if I do give her space she’ll just leave me and find someone else. Will me giving her space without moving out work? She’s not willing to go to counseling made that abundantly clear. She’s saying she’s done with me accusing her of talking to other men. Now the accusations have happen but not a lot. Sorry so long and all over the place. Trying to care for kids and have a complete thought. Some prayers and guidance may help me.