I feel like giving up

I (33f) just had my latest 6 mo relationship end in spectacular fashion. My ex told me everything I wanted to hear, long term commitment, children, open communication, etc. Then I found out that he had stolen my credit cards and debit card information. At my mention that “someone” was stealing my money, he became a complete ghost, blocked all communication like I had never existed.

The one before that was 8 years with someone I still think of as my best friend. After being engaged a year he decided he didn’t actually want to get married or have kids like we had often discussed.

I’m finding it hard to move past this feeling that everyone will lie to me. I feel just defeated. I’m sure many have gone through similar upsets in their life plans. How do you stay optimistic? Is there a way to tell when he is lying to you and maybe himself about what he really wants?

Submitted May 25, 2019 at 01:37PM

I (33f) just had my latest 6 mo relationship end in spectacular fashion. My ex told me everything I wanted to hear, long term commitment, children, open communication, etc. Then I found out that he had stolen my credit cards and debit card information. At my mention that “someone” was stealing my money, he became a complete ghost, blocked all communication like I had never existed.The one before that was 8 years with someone I still think of as my best friend. After being engaged a year he decided he didn’t actually want to get married or have kids like we had often discussed.I’m finding it hard to move past this feeling that everyone will lie to me. I feel just defeated. I’m sure many have gone through similar upsets in their life plans. How do you stay optimistic? Is there a way to tell when he is lying to you and maybe himself about what he really wants?