Do I (24F) have a right to be upset or am I just self sabotaging from prior relationships I was in?

I have dated men who have cheated on me, made me feel like I am not good enough, etc. These guys would like pictures on Instagram of ‘normal’ girls who were incredibly attractive. They would be half naked and it would bother me because they didn’t seem to care I was upset and the cheating just also made me lose my trust. I am super annoyed that I even cared about liking a girl’s Instagram picture because it’s just a picture, right? It caused me to spiral into a darkness and have super low self esteem. I have since then moved on from these past hurts and have built my self esteem up so much and I truly am so happy with where I am right now. Without sounding like a cocky ahole, I would say I am a decently attractive female and have a good personality. I have met, and now dating, a man (24M) who is wonderful in every way possible. He is intelligent, kind, compassionate, empathetic, emotional, and just overall an incredibly nice person. He makes me feel like I’m the only girl in the world when we are together and it’s so sincere. He comes from a great family and surrounds himself with good people. My friends and family love him and I’m falling for him more and more every day. So here is where everything comes into play...He follows a lot of beautiful girls on Instagram that would be considered “influencers” or just normal girls who are gorgeous. He likes pictures of them that are pretty much half naked and boobs just out for the world to see. Now, I 100% understand that I am not the only woman he finds attractive and I would be naive to think that. I find other men attractive, too. It doesn’t bother me that he likes these pictures to the extent it used to when I dated these other guys but it still stings a little. I know it’s just another like when he likes actual famous girls’ insta pictures. But when he likes super attractive females’ pictures that aren’t famous, that’s when I’m like ugh. What I don’t know is if old hurt feelings are resurfacing or if this is a “red flag” sort of thing that I should be concerned about. I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous and that’s why I’m coming here for you to tell me like it is. I really think old feelings are coming into play but just want some advice.

Tl;DR: I am dating an amazing man who seems too good to be true (in a great way). He likes a bunch of beautiful girls’ pictures on Instagram that are half naked. Do I have a right to be concerned or am I crazy?

Submitted May 26, 2019 at 06:44AM

I have dated men who have cheated on me, made me feel like I am not good enough, etc. These guys would like pictures on Instagram of ‘normal’ girls who were incredibly attractive. They would be half naked and it would bother me because they didn’t seem to care I was upset and the cheating just also made me lose my trust. I am super annoyed that I even cared about liking a girl’s Instagram picture because it’s just a picture, right? It caused me to spiral into a darkness and have super low self esteem. I have since then moved on from these past hurts and have built my self esteem up so much and I truly am so happy with where I am right now. Without sounding like a cocky ahole, I would say I am a decently attractive female and have a good personality. I have met, and now dating, a man (24M) who is wonderful in every way possible. He is intelligent, kind, compassionate, empathetic, emotional, and just overall an incredibly nice person. He makes me feel like I’m the only girl in the world when we are together and it’s so sincere. He comes from a great family and surrounds himself with good people. My friends and family love him and I’m falling for him more and more every day. So here is where everything comes into play...He follows a lot of beautiful girls on Instagram that would be considered “influencers” or just normal girls who are gorgeous. He likes pictures of them that are pretty much half naked and boobs just out for the world to see. Now, I 100% understand that I am not the only woman he finds attractive and I would be naive to think that. I find other men attractive, too. It doesn’t bother me that he likes these pictures to the extent it used to when I dated these other guys but it still stings a little. I know it’s just another like when he likes actual famous girls’ insta pictures. But when he likes super attractive females’ pictures that aren’t famous, that’s when I’m like ugh. What I don’t know is if old hurt feelings are resurfacing or if this is a “red flag” sort of thing that I should be concerned about. I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous and that’s why I’m coming here for you to tell me like it is. I really think old feelings are coming into play but just want some advice.Tl;DR: I am dating an amazing man who seems too good to be true (in a great way). He likes a bunch of beautiful girls’ pictures on Instagram that are half naked. Do I have a right to be concerned or am I crazy?