How do I [21M] tell a girl [20F] that I love her?

I worked with with this girl for almost 2 years, up until she left recently after a change in staffing. I am very self conscious of my appearances (weight) for one thing and also have never done something like this, but at this point I feel like I need to tell her because it's driving me insane. We text occasionally, I sometimes feel like she knows but other times I don't know which makes me even more scared to say something. She is in a relationship now with someone else and I have no intention of messing that up in any way, I really have even prepared myself for this to mess up my friendship with her because I feel like in my head I can't go any further with it without saying something. I don't want to do this in a way that makes her uncomfortable or in a way that makes her feel like I put her on the spot, but I really have to say something at this point. I am absolutely terrified just thinking about it right now and just need to know the best way to go about doing this.

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TL;DR: I am in love with a girl and have never told anyone how I felt about them before but this time I think I need too, what is the best way to do that to make her feel comfortable?

Submitted April 19, 2019 at 05:01AM

I worked with with this girl for almost 2 years, up until she left recently after a change in staffing. I am very self conscious of my appearances (weight) for one thing and also have never done something like this, but at this point I feel like I need to tell her because it's driving me insane. We text occasionally, I sometimes feel like she knows but other times I don't know which makes me even more scared to say something. She is in a relationship now with someone else and I have no intention of messing that up in any way, I really have even prepared myself for this to mess up my friendship with her because I feel like in my head I can't go any further with it without saying something. I don't want to do this in a way that makes her uncomfortable or in a way that makes her feel like I put her on the spot, but I really have to say something at this point. I am absolutely terrified just thinking about it right now and just need to know the best way to go about doing this.​TL;DR: I am in love with a girl and have never told anyone how I felt about them before but this time I think I need too, what is the best way to do that to make her feel comfortable?