Ex(?) GF[F26] blocked my [M28] number out of the blue...do I just accept it?

So this isn't a "tinder match ghosted me" post, but we've been close friends for a year and a half prior to our relationship. We just clicked on a personal level, but she had a boyfriend so I never approached her even though I had feelings for her pretty early on. I guess she became somewhat attached to me as well as she left her BF of 4 years and we started dating pretty soon after. She said she isn't ready yet for anything long term, so we just met whenever we could and enjoyed each others company.

3 months after her breakup we finally kissed and everything went kinda alright, at least so I thought. I won't gonna lie: From the get-go our relationship was a bit rocky. Not on a personal level, but she is very busy with work, so we couldn't see each other too often, maybe once every 2 weeks. I on the other hand am rather codependant I will admit, so I kinda pressured her, now that I was her BF, to finally make more time for me. We never "fought" about it though - she said she understands, she is sorry and will try.

Last week after approximately 3 monhs of being together we were gonna go on holiday together. She said she can't wait for it and it will finally be our first real "test" of being together for a longer period of time and all that. We were gonna go on monday. The thursday before we had another little argument over text where I, again not gonna lie, might have suggested thinking about breaking up with her because I was so frustrated not seeing her for 3 1/2 weeks after she stood me up 2 times (I fucked up, I know). Later though I apologized and said how much I look forward of going on holiday with her.

On thursday night she assured me she isn't mad or anything and to not think about it. I was working late on friday so I didn't get to text her half the day, but in the evening I realized I can't see her Whatsapp picture anymore so I got suspicious. I just sent a random text of how much I miss her, only to see it had just one checkmark. At first I thought she has no connection or whatever so I waited. By lunchtime on saturday I grew worried, so I tried to call, only to find out the call goes right to her mailbox. That is the moment I realized she must've blocked my number.

And now here I am, a week later, not really knowing what to do. The bizarre thing is just how this comes so out of the blue. If you meet someone through tinder, have 2 dates, but are not interrested and ghost him fair play - even though I still find it a shitty way of letting someone know. But we have known each other for over 2 years now, been together for 3 months and she just blocks me and that's that? Just a few weeks ago we called each other and talked about how we can make this relationship work and she seemed more concerned than me, so it can't be that suddenly she has given up on it. We were even talking moving in together (not concrete, but she must've seen me as someone she would potentially move in together with and she wanted to give me her keys to her apartment), getting a dog eventually, had several plans made for the future (even distant future).

We live in different towns (about 30km apart), so we won't see each other "naturally" aka bump into each other. So now I am debating over whether I just give her time, because maybe she still wasn't over her ex or something and wait it out, risking to lose her or if I should try to contact her. Thing is I would need to do potentially "dodgy" stuff, as it either would be calling her from another number or showing up at her doorstep unanncouned. But I just really don't know what to do. I love her and she even almost said she loves me (over phone "yea I reaaaaally wanna tell you something but I wouldn't want to do that over the phone" with a very positive voice though) so I am ready to "fight" for the relationship. But I don't wanna come across as a controlling creep or whatever. I just, at the very least, want closure. Has she broken up with me or does she just need some time? I can't know and that bugs me almost more than the actual breakup.

tldr: GF blocked my number after 1 1/2 years of friendship and 6 months of dating of which 3 months we were actually together. Is it resonable to just block my number/ghost me or should I try to contact her? Would you feel creeped out by that?

Submitted April 19, 2019 at 06:22AM

So this isn't a "tinder match ghosted me" post, but we've been close friends for a year and a half prior to our relationship. We just clicked on a personal level, but she had a boyfriend so I never approached her even though I had feelings for her pretty early on. I guess she became somewhat attached to me as well as she left her BF of 4 years and we started dating pretty soon after. She said she isn't ready yet for anything long term, so we just met whenever we could and enjoyed each others company.3 months after her breakup we finally kissed and everything went kinda alright, at least so I thought. I won't gonna lie: From the get-go our relationship was a bit rocky. Not on a personal level, but she is very busy with work, so we couldn't see each other too often, maybe once every 2 weeks. I on the other hand am rather codependant I will admit, so I kinda pressured her, now that I was her BF, to finally make more time for me. We never "fought" about it though - she said she understands, she is sorry and will try.Last week after approximately 3 monhs of being together we were gonna go on holiday together. She said she can't wait for it and it will finally be our first real "test" of being together for a longer period of time and all that. We were gonna go on monday. The thursday before we had another little argument over text where I, again not gonna lie, might have suggested thinking about breaking up with her because I was so frustrated not seeing her for 3 1/2 weeks after she stood me up 2 times (I fucked up, I know). Later though I apologized and said how much I look forward of going on holiday with her.On thursday night she assured me she isn't mad or anything and to not think about it. I was working late on friday so I didn't get to text her half the day, but in the evening I realized I can't see her Whatsapp picture anymore so I got suspicious. I just sent a random text of how much I miss her, only to see it had just one checkmark. At first I thought she has no connection or whatever so I waited. By lunchtime on saturday I grew worried, so I tried to call, only to find out the call goes right to her mailbox. That is the moment I realized she must've blocked my number.And now here I am, a week later, not really knowing what to do. The bizarre thing is just how this comes so out of the blue. If you meet someone through tinder, have 2 dates, but are not interrested and ghost him fair play - even though I still find it a shitty way of letting someone know. But we have known each other for over 2 years now, been together for 3 months and she just blocks me and that's that? Just a few weeks ago we called each other and talked about how we can make this relationship work and she seemed more concerned than me, so it can't be that suddenly she has given up on it. We were even talking moving in together (not concrete, but she must've seen me as someone she would potentially move in together with and she wanted to give me her keys to her apartment), getting a dog eventually, had several plans made for the future (even distant future).We live in different towns (about 30km apart), so we won't see each other "naturally" aka bump into each other. So now I am debating over whether I just give her time, because maybe she still wasn't over her ex or something and wait it out, risking to lose her or if I should try to contact her. Thing is I would need to do potentially "dodgy" stuff, as it either would be calling her from another number or showing up at her doorstep unanncouned. But I just really don't know what to do. I love her and she even almost said she loves me (over phone "yea I reaaaaally wanna tell you something but I wouldn't want to do that over the phone" with a very positive voice though) so I am ready to "fight" for the relationship. But I don't wanna come across as a controlling creep or whatever. I just, at the very least, want closure. Has she broken up with me or does she just need some time? I can't know and that bugs me almost more than the actual breakup.tldr: GF blocked my number after 1 1/2 years of friendship and 6 months of dating of which 3 months we were actually together. Is it resonable to just block my number/ghost me or should I try to contact her? Would you feel creeped out by that?