Over My Ex (in record time for me)...What Next?

So, some background on me for reference. The short version...

I'm currently 32.

I fell in love with my best friend when I was 15. It was unrequited. It took me until I was 30/31 until I was really over her. I was devastated

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Sometime in 2004(?) I met someone online, not romantically, just an online friend. We talked sporadically, hung out over skype (me being in the UK and her in the USA). We got on well, had the same interests. Fast forward to 2017, we admit we have feelings for each other and they have started to grow into more complex feelings. We start dating in late 2017. My first relationship.

It was a perfect, idyllic year.

She broke up with me in November last year.

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In the past month or so, I've come to terms with this and the reasons why, I understand why she did and I agree. I hope to remain friends with her.

That's not what this post is about though.

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So, going from taking years and years to get over my first heartbreak, then some 7 months for the second heartbreak, I can finally say I'm over it. But I'm 32, I work in a male orientated job type. I am nerdy and introverted, and don't have any friends in the area due to not growing up around here. How on earth do I meet people (friends, let alone a girlfriend), is online dating what people our age rely on for dating these days? I missed out on dating altogether for various reasons, and now I need to get dating, is online dating really the only viable option besides going to a bar by myself and feeling very out of place?

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I'm trying to be more socially active to meet more people, but so far, because of my interests...I'm not having much luck. I started playing Magic the Gathering again. Clearly, no luck on that front. Drinking doesn't do me favours. so....

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What next?



Submitted May 27, 2019 at 07:16PM

So, some background on me for reference. The short version...I'm currently 32.I fell in love with my best friend when I was 15. It was unrequited. It took me until I was 30/31 until I was really over her. I was devastated​Sometime in 2004(?) I met someone online, not romantically, just an online friend. We talked sporadically, hung out over skype (me being in the UK and her in the USA). We got on well, had the same interests. Fast forward to 2017, we admit we have feelings for each other and they have started to grow into more complex feelings. We start dating in late 2017. My first relationship.It was a perfect, idyllic year.She broke up with me in November last year.​In the past month or so, I've come to terms with this and the reasons why, I understand why she did and I agree. I hope to remain friends with her.That's not what this post is about though.​So, going from taking years and years to get over my first heartbreak, then some 7 months for the second heartbreak, I can finally say I'm over it. But I'm 32, I work in a male orientated job type. I am nerdy and introverted, and don't have any friends in the area due to not growing up around here. How on earth do I meet people (friends, let alone a girlfriend), is online dating what people our age rely on for dating these days? I missed out on dating altogether for various reasons, and now I need to get dating, is online dating really the only viable option besides going to a bar by myself and feeling very out of place?​I'm trying to be more socially active to meet more people, but so far, because of my interests...I'm not having much luck. I started playing Magic the Gathering again. Clearly, no luck on that front. Drinking doesn't do me favours. so....​What next?
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