An Irrational Obsession

This is going to be a long winded post so I'll write a a TLDR at the bottom.

I have an irrational obsession for a girl I've never met. Every day, I think about her and an imaginary reality where we are together. I also think about how I was an idiot for never approaching her, but also doubting she would have ever went out with me.

I originally saw her my 2nd year at college after coming out of my geology class. We locked eyes and she smiled; I thought about approaching her the next time I saw her. I saw her about another 2 or 3 times but I failed to muster up the courage to talk to her. At a certain point I stopped seeing her and stopped caring, but I always wished I would see her again on campus.

This past year, my 3rd year, I saw her at one of our football games, she was with a guy but I was still ecstatic that I saw her.

Fast forward to spring semester, I see her towards the end of the semester after having lunch at the student union which I usually dont visit. Out of curiosity, I went back the next week and saw her again. This went on another 2 or 3 times, always losing the opportunity to approach her (excuses and bad situations). Didnt see her much more after that and I stopped going out of my way to try and see her.

I don't even know this girls name or anything about her other than that I am unusually attracted to her and I beat myself up for never approaching her.

I dont necessarily believe in soul mates, but I've never felt this way towards a girl in passing by. I've see plenty of beautiful girls on campus, not knowing anything about them, but I've never been hung up on something like this. Maybe it's missed opportunity, but I've felt this way the first day I looked into her eyes.

The only explanation I have is that we are generically compatible and I unconsciously realize it, so my brain paints a reality that doesnt exist so that one day I might ask her out.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Seems weird I have such a metaphysical connection to someone I've never met.

TLDR: I obsess over a girl I find extremely attractive not knowing anything about her. It's one specific girl that I saw in passing by several times on my huge campus. Is this my brain just urging me to ask her out, or do you believe there is a metaphysical connection?



Submitted May 28, 2019 at 01:29AM

This is going to be a long winded post so I'll write a a TLDR at the bottom.I have an irrational obsession for a girl I've never met. Every day, I think about her and an imaginary reality where we are together. I also think about how I was an idiot for never approaching her, but also doubting she would have ever went out with me.I originally saw her my 2nd year at college after coming out of my geology class. We locked eyes and she smiled; I thought about approaching her the next time I saw her. I saw her about another 2 or 3 times but I failed to muster up the courage to talk to her. At a certain point I stopped seeing her and stopped caring, but I always wished I would see her again on campus.This past year, my 3rd year, I saw her at one of our football games, she was with a guy but I was still ecstatic that I saw her.Fast forward to spring semester, I see her towards the end of the semester after having lunch at the student union which I usually dont visit. Out of curiosity, I went back the next week and saw her again. This went on another 2 or 3 times, always losing the opportunity to approach her (excuses and bad situations). Didnt see her much more after that and I stopped going out of my way to try and see her.I don't even know this girls name or anything about her other than that I am unusually attracted to her and I beat myself up for never approaching her.I dont necessarily believe in soul mates, but I've never felt this way towards a girl in passing by. I've see plenty of beautiful girls on campus, not knowing anything about them, but I've never been hung up on something like this. Maybe it's missed opportunity, but I've felt this way the first day I looked into her eyes.The only explanation I have is that we are generically compatible and I unconsciously realize it, so my brain paints a reality that doesnt exist so that one day I might ask her out.Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Seems weird I have such a metaphysical connection to someone I've never met.TLDR: I obsess over a girl I find extremely attractive not knowing anything about her. It's one specific girl that I saw in passing by several times on my huge campus. Is this my brain just urging me to ask her out, or do you believe there is a metaphysical connection?
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