Be afraid and do it anyway: ask someone out.

Backstory: I have been on a dating hiatus for 3 years after a long period of dating a lot of people. I needed a break from putting all of my energy into something other than myself.

During this break, I have changed my diet, focused on my health, ran a half marathon, kicked ass at work and have been making more money, traveled a lot, been involved in more community events, volunteered, and have learned to love myself.

Now I’m starting to dip a toe back into the dating waters. I recently met a man through a new hobby. He is an instructor in this hobby and had intrigued me. I decided I needed to be bold and ask him out.

I initially meant to do it in person, but there were colleagues in his office so I couldn’t do it discreetly. I didn’t want to chicken out, so I found his contact information online. I sent this text message:

“Hi [name], this is Honeysuckle Rose. I was just in the shop today. I apologize in advance if this question is inappropriate or on the wrong media. I stopped by to ask if you’d like to grab a drink with me sometime. I appreciated your wit and approachable demeanor and I was hoping to get to know you better.”

So, that was it. I never got a response. But that wasn’t really the point. I needed to just be brave and jump. Try it sometime. It’s freeing.

Submitted May 28, 2019 at 12:51AM

Backstory: I have been on a dating hiatus for 3 years after a long period of dating a lot of people. I needed a break from putting all of my energy into something other than myself.During this break, I have changed my diet, focused on my health, ran a half marathon, kicked ass at work and have been making more money, traveled a lot, been involved in more community events, volunteered, and have learned to love myself.Now I’m starting to dip a toe back into the dating waters. I recently met a man through a new hobby. He is an instructor in this hobby and had intrigued me. I decided I needed to be bold and ask him out.I initially meant to do it in person, but there were colleagues in his office so I couldn’t do it discreetly. I didn’t want to chicken out, so I found his contact information online. I sent this text message:“Hi [name], this is Honeysuckle Rose. I was just in the shop today. I apologize in advance if this question is inappropriate or on the wrong media. I stopped by to ask if you’d like to grab a drink with me sometime. I appreciated your wit and approachable demeanor and I was hoping to get to know you better.”So, that was it. I never got a response. But that wasn’t really the point. I needed to just be brave and jump. Try it sometime. It’s freeing.