Everyone else but me...

I have had an average dating life. I’m 38. I was married in 2008. Divorced (my request) in 2011. Since that time I’ve been in three relationships; 1 year, 6 months, and 3 months. I’m not entirely unfortunate looking. 6 or 7 on a scale of 10.

This is my thing: everyone else (EVERYONE) in my circle, on my FB/IG/Snapchat feed has babies, marriages, second marriages, step children, homes, pets. They have it “all”. I am well aware that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ and have even taken breaks from social media. It’s helped.

I live a good life. I’m educated (goal attained), have a great job (goal attained), and have amazing friends. My family is terribly small, but very loving, supportive, and warm. I travel and enjoy doing things I love.

I still feel ... lonely. I have no children (by choice and by lack of a decent mate to procreate with), and as I said before, a very small family. They say I’m too “picky”. And, perhaps i am. But at 3 weeks until 39, shouldn’t i be? Why settle?

I’m in a slump and i feel depression setting in - which doesn’t help the “get out there and find someone” vibe I need.

I’m thankful for all that I’ve had. But i wonder if its all in the past. Will i find someone or am i destined to be alone? The great “aunty” and “single always reliable to be available friend”

Submitted May 28, 2019 at 02:02AM

I have had an average dating life. I’m 38. I was married in 2008. Divorced (my request) in 2011. Since that time I’ve been in three relationships; 1 year, 6 months, and 3 months. I’m not entirely unfortunate looking. 6 or 7 on a scale of 10.This is my thing: everyone else (EVERYONE) in my circle, on my FB/IG/Snapchat feed has babies, marriages, second marriages, step children, homes, pets. They have it “all”. I am well aware that ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ and have even taken breaks from social media. It’s helped.I live a good life. I’m educated (goal attained), have a great job (goal attained), and have amazing friends. My family is terribly small, but very loving, supportive, and warm. I travel and enjoy doing things I love.I still feel ... lonely. I have no children (by choice and by lack of a decent mate to procreate with), and as I said before, a very small family. They say I’m too “picky”. And, perhaps i am. But at 3 weeks until 39, shouldn’t i be? Why settle?I’m in a slump and i feel depression setting in - which doesn’t help the “get out there and find someone” vibe I need.I’m thankful for all that I’ve had. But i wonder if its all in the past. Will i find someone or am i destined to be alone? The great “aunty” and “single always reliable to be available friend”