My (30F) son’s (1M) grandparents have no idea he exists, should I contact them?

My son’s father left me while I was pregnant. His family has absolutely no idea my son exists. I begged him to tell them while I was pregnant so they could have a relationship with our son, but he refused. He also has 2 other children, 7 & 9 years old. His family is very sweet, was always very welcoming and felt like family whenever they’d come to town to visit. Would it be wrong for me to contact them to invite them into their grandson’s life? As he’s approaching his first birthday, I can’t help but feel overwhelmed with sadness for the situation, and that they could grow old and die without ever knowing their grandson exists. I don’t want money or anything from them but to give them the opportunity to have a relationship with their own flesh and blood. Would this be wrong to contact them?

I also feel like it’s worth mentioning my son’s unknowing grandfather had a heart attack a few years back, and I can’t help but wonder if this could cause enough panic and maybe anger to give him another one? Is that ridiculous? Please someone convince me one way or another.

Tl;dr: my son’s father never told his parents about my pregnancy before or after he left me, should I contact them and let them know they have another grandchild?

Submitted April 08, 2019 at 05:42AM

My son’s father left me while I was pregnant. His family has absolutely no idea my son exists. I begged him to tell them while I was pregnant so they could have a relationship with our son, but he refused. He also has 2 other children, 7 & 9 years old. His family is very sweet, was always very welcoming and felt like family whenever they’d come to town to visit. Would it be wrong for me to contact them to invite them into their grandson’s life? As he’s approaching his first birthday, I can’t help but feel overwhelmed with sadness for the situation, and that they could grow old and die without ever knowing their grandson exists. I don’t want money or anything from them but to give them the opportunity to have a relationship with their own flesh and blood. Would this be wrong to contact them?I also feel like it’s worth mentioning my son’s unknowing grandfather had a heart attack a few years back, and I can’t help but wonder if this could cause enough panic and maybe anger to give him another one? Is that ridiculous? Please someone convince me one way or another.Tl;dr: my son’s father never told his parents about my pregnancy before or after he left me, should I contact them and let them know they have another grandchild?