I (19M) decided to end it with my GF (19F) after two years of on/off dating. I now have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that its over.

We started dating towards the end of high school, dated for a bit over half a year until things got toxic. Ended it, then I had a short relationship with someone else for about 3 months, but it didn't work because of long distance. Decided to get back with her and things were absolutely great! Except like 6-7 months in she started going on dates with her exs behind my back. When I found out I ended it.

I really didn't want to give my relationship up with her, because at that point I had spent so much time with her I in all honesty couldn't see myself with someone else. So we started talking again, we continued to have a sort of "off the books" relationship for 3-4 months were we made it REALLY clear we were exclusive to each other. I recently found out that one night while she told me she was going out with friends she got drunk, called some dude at 1AM met up with him and made out. God knows what else. She then had the audacity to text me literally 5 minutes after meeting up with him saying she misses me and wishes I was with her in bed. I was willing to look past it and take some counselling because I really wanted to make it work, but she refuses to stop talking to the guy she cheated on me with because he isn't a "threat" and is just a "friend". She said we can sit down next week and talk everything over properly, but I told her if she can't even do something as simple as block a guy she cheated on me with, she clearly doesn't care about our relationship or me. So I decided to block her and end it permanently.

I now have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that its over. I can't believe I spent two years with this person only for them to stab me in the back. Maybe I should've learned after the first time, but now I feel like I've invested too much time to throw it away. I know I'll have to or this will just keep happening in the future, but I just can't accept that. I really don't want to. In all honesty I have a hard time seeing myself with someone else. I don't know if I will even find someone else who will love me at this point. She told me "I had to drop my standards really low to get with you, and you should appreciate that" and it just makes me think maybe I'll never find anyone again. I'm really lost and at this point I honestly have no idea what to do.

TL;DR: I invested two years trying to make my relationship with this girl work, only for her to cheat on me and constantly fuck me over. I now have no idea what to do or even if I'll find a relationship again because of her saying that she had to drop her standards really low to get with me.

Submitted April 08, 2019 at 06:28AM

We started dating towards the end of high school, dated for a bit over half a year until things got toxic. Ended it, then I had a short relationship with someone else for about 3 months, but it didn't work because of long distance. Decided to get back with her and things were absolutely great! Except like 6-7 months in she started going on dates with her exs behind my back. When I found out I ended it.I really didn't want to give my relationship up with her, because at that point I had spent so much time with her I in all honesty couldn't see myself with someone else. So we started talking again, we continued to have a sort of "off the books" relationship for 3-4 months were we made it REALLY clear we were exclusive to each other. I recently found out that one night while she told me she was going out with friends she got drunk, called some dude at 1AM met up with him and made out. God knows what else. She then had the audacity to text me literally 5 minutes after meeting up with him saying she misses me and wishes I was with her in bed. I was willing to look past it and take some counselling because I really wanted to make it work, but she refuses to stop talking to the guy she cheated on me with because he isn't a "threat" and is just a "friend". She said we can sit down next week and talk everything over properly, but I told her if she can't even do something as simple as block a guy she cheated on me with, she clearly doesn't care about our relationship or me. So I decided to block her and end it permanently.I now have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that its over. I can't believe I spent two years with this person only for them to stab me in the back. Maybe I should've learned after the first time, but now I feel like I've invested too much time to throw it away. I know I'll have to or this will just keep happening in the future, but I just can't accept that. I really don't want to. In all honesty I have a hard time seeing myself with someone else. I don't know if I will even find someone else who will love me at this point. She told me "I had to drop my standards really low to get with you, and you should appreciate that" and it just makes me think maybe I'll never find anyone again. I'm really lost and at this point I honestly have no idea what to do.TL;DR: I invested two years trying to make my relationship with this girl work, only for her to cheat on me and constantly fuck me over. I now have no idea what to do or even if I'll find a relationship again because of her saying that she had to drop her standards really low to get with me.