I(23m) and gf (21f) of 9 months broke up today and i feel numb and empty.

Me and gf, lets call her A, broke up today due to her family situation.

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A's muslim while i am a not very religious person at all and we started dating last year. It would be an understatement to say that this has been the happiest ive ever been. Although recently A started feeling guilty about some of the stuff shes been doing, like eating non halal food, drinking and sex. We always knew things were gonna be hard for us due to A's parents being devout muslims, but being young and in love as we are, decided to ignore it. We thought whatever happens we would just face together, and that her parents might be upset at first, but they'll eventually come around.

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Fast forward to today and we were talking about this stuff because A's parents cried when she rejected a proposal and no reason why. A's parents do not know about us because she is not allowed to date based on culture/religion. Some words were said between them and next time we talked she started talking about the guilt she was feeling and wanting to stop eating haram. She also decided to stop having sex and i told her i was ok with it as i was not in the relationship just for the sex. 6 days later today we were talking about stuff again and A came to the realization that with this relationship, she either loses her parents or me. We then talked more about our options and what we could do and I told her that when she makes that decision ill respect it. I do not want her to lose her relationship with her parents and asked her to consider if it was worth betting on our 9 month relationship. We ended up breaking up and now i am just lost and i do not know what to do. We both still love each other and its not like we ended the relationship because of some really bad fights . Any advice would help

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TLDR: me and gf broke up because religion and family stuff



Submitted April 08, 2019 at 06:57AM

Me and gf, lets call her A, broke up today due to her family situation.​A's muslim while i am a not very religious person at all and we started dating last year. It would be an understatement to say that this has been the happiest ive ever been. Although recently A started feeling guilty about some of the stuff shes been doing, like eating non halal food, drinking and sex. We always knew things were gonna be hard for us due to A's parents being devout muslims, but being young and in love as we are, decided to ignore it. We thought whatever happens we would just face together, and that her parents might be upset at first, but they'll eventually come around.​Fast forward to today and we were talking about this stuff because A's parents cried when she rejected a proposal and no reason why. A's parents do not know about us because she is not allowed to date based on culture/religion. Some words were said between them and next time we talked she started talking about the guilt she was feeling and wanting to stop eating haram. She also decided to stop having sex and i told her i was ok with it as i was not in the relationship just for the sex. 6 days later today we were talking about stuff again and A came to the realization that with this relationship, she either loses her parents or me. We then talked more about our options and what we could do and I told her that when she makes that decision ill respect it. I do not want her to lose her relationship with her parents and asked her to consider if it was worth betting on our 9 month relationship. We ended up breaking up and now i am just lost and i do not know what to do. We both still love each other and its not like we ended the relationship because of some really bad fights . Any advice would help​TLDR: me and gf broke up because religion and family stuff
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