(22m) Should I not even bother trying to date women in my twenties?

I’m a virgin who has never had an actual relationship. That said, I simply don’t know what girls look for in a guy. Currently I have no friends, I’m an unemployed college student, and I have no place of my own. As far as looks go, I guess I have average looks in terms of facial structure. I do, however, struggle with mild acne, as well as the fact that I’m a short male (5’5”).

Like I said, I don’t know what girls want, especially around my age. If I ventured to guess, I would say that they want a guy with a nice job, their own place, decent looks, and developed social skills by now.

I obviously have neither of these things. Sure, I’m trying to work on myself, but if I did find a job soon (I’ve been looking), it would be entry-level given my lack of job experience. I will also be unable to afford my own place for a while too. Lastly, I’m always going to be at a disadvantage with my height, but I’m not sure when my acne will go away completely.

I guess what I’m getting at is that it may be years, maybe until I’m in my thirties, before girls will find me somewhat dateable. I’m honestly finding it hard enough as is to continue on with life knowing this is probably true. Not only will It look extremely odd for me to have poor social skills around women in my thirties, I currently hate being alone as is. Persistent loneliness just makes working on myself feel like a worthless effort.

What should I do? Should I just give up before I begin in favor of working on all my current disadvantages? Or should I still try my luck at somehow finding someone who is willing to be there while I build my life up?

Submitted April 08, 2019 at 05:51AM

I’m a virgin who has never had an actual relationship. That said, I simply don’t know what girls look for in a guy. Currently I have no friends, I’m an unemployed college student, and I have no place of my own. As far as looks go, I guess I have average looks in terms of facial structure. I do, however, struggle with mild acne, as well as the fact that I’m a short male (5’5”).Like I said, I don’t know what girls want, especially around my age. If I ventured to guess, I would say that they want a guy with a nice job, their own place, decent looks, and developed social skills by now.I obviously have neither of these things. Sure, I’m trying to work on myself, but if I did find a job soon (I’ve been looking), it would be entry-level given my lack of job experience. I will also be unable to afford my own place for a while too. Lastly, I’m always going to be at a disadvantage with my height, but I’m not sure when my acne will go away completely.I guess what I’m getting at is that it may be years, maybe until I’m in my thirties, before girls will find me somewhat dateable. I’m honestly finding it hard enough as is to continue on with life knowing this is probably true. Not only will It look extremely odd for me to have poor social skills around women in my thirties, I currently hate being alone as is. Persistent loneliness just makes working on myself feel like a worthless effort.What should I do? Should I just give up before I begin in favor of working on all my current disadvantages? Or should I still try my luck at somehow finding someone who is willing to be there while I build my life up?