How to uninvite my (38F) BF (40M) of 5 months to a party?

We’ve been dating nearly 5 months. To start with we both said we didn’t want a relationship (we meet organically through our work) but we just connected so well that we after hanging out for a few months we realised we were falling in love. We’ve both been married before and don’t want to head down that same path so despite admitting our love for each other we have no intention of merging our lives together any time soon (if ever!) We’ve decided not to meet each other’s parents because his mum thinks he’s moving on too soon after his marriage ended and my parents are super conservative and would disapprove of me dating until I’m officially divorced (have been separated 18 months) Anyway, I invited BF to my brothers birthday party this weekend because I see my siblings as my friends and I thought it would be nice to have a date for the party. It would be the first time he meets my siblings (except for a brief introduction to my brother when we ran into him one day on the street) I’m now having second thoughts because I’m not sure I’m ready to introduce him to my family. I love my siblings and they are very welcoming, warm people but I have had two marriages and several boyfriends over the years and most of them have been with the same partner for their whole adult lives. I don’t want to be that sister who’s constantly bringing home a new guy. How do I politely uninvite my BF? He has expressed how much he’s looking forward to going.
Or should I just get over my anxiety and bring him along anyway?



Submitted May 24, 2019 at 01:28AM

We’ve been dating nearly 5 months. To start with we both said we didn’t want a relationship (we meet organically through our work) but we just connected so well that we after hanging out for a few months we realised we were falling in love. We’ve both been married before and don’t want to head down that same path so despite admitting our love for each other we have no intention of merging our lives together any time soon (if ever!) We’ve decided not to meet each other’s parents because his mum thinks he’s moving on too soon after his marriage ended and my parents are super conservative and would disapprove of me dating until I’m officially divorced (have been separated 18 months) Anyway, I invited BF to my brothers birthday party this weekend because I see my siblings as my friends and I thought it would be nice to have a date for the party. It would be the first time he meets my siblings (except for a brief introduction to my brother when we ran into him one day on the street) I’m now having second thoughts because I’m not sure I’m ready to introduce him to my family. I love my siblings and they are very welcoming, warm people but I have had two marriages and several boyfriends over the years and most of them have been with the same partner for their whole adult lives. I don’t want to be that sister who’s constantly bringing home a new guy. How do I politely uninvite my BF? He has expressed how much he’s looking forward to going.Or should I just get over my anxiety and bring him along anyway?

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