What do you think went wrong during this strange encounter? Am I to blame?

So we started hanging out and texting each other. When we hung out, IMO, things were great. We seemed to really like each other. This past week, we made plans for him to come over. He arrived late and honestly seemed faded; very out of it. We sit on the couch and we cuddle. As things become more intimate, he acts like he would rather be somewhere else. I think he was on something. We move to my room and things become steamy. We begin to have sex, but he lacked passion, tenderness and just acted as though he hated it. He went flaccid and well, I can’t do anything with him being flaccid inside of me. I got off of him because I was also humiliated and felt it was all one sided. We chat it up for a moment. I told him that he appears tired and he should go home to sleep because of work. honestly, I wanted to cry into my pillow because I felt mortified. It wasn’t like anything I expected. He texts me as he’s on his way home like normal - all flirty. I cry myself to sleep. Then next day, I text him asking how he is and the conversation was small talk so I stopped replying. I didn’t hear from him all weekend. I texted him late Sunday saying I hope he was well. He ignored it and didn’t reply to me. I think he even unfollowed me. Do you think he was grossed out by me? Was he humiliated he was soft and on something? Was it wrong that I wanted him to leave after all this?

I’ve been so sad since. I really thought he liked me.... and now I feel horrific because I’m unsure if he’s to blame or if I was really rude about everything. I would like to ask him what happened, but if he’s ignoring me, then I don’t think I should push it

Submitted May 29, 2019 at 06:48AM

So we started hanging out and texting each other. When we hung out, IMO, things were great. We seemed to really like each other. This past week, we made plans for him to come over. He arrived late and honestly seemed faded; very out of it. We sit on the couch and we cuddle. As things become more intimate, he acts like he would rather be somewhere else. I think he was on something. We move to my room and things become steamy. We begin to have sex, but he lacked passion, tenderness and just acted as though he hated it. He went flaccid and well, I can’t do anything with him being flaccid inside of me. I got off of him because I was also humiliated and felt it was all one sided. We chat it up for a moment. I told him that he appears tired and he should go home to sleep because of work. honestly, I wanted to cry into my pillow because I felt mortified. It wasn’t like anything I expected. He texts me as he’s on his way home like normal - all flirty. I cry myself to sleep. Then next day, I text him asking how he is and the conversation was small talk so I stopped replying. I didn’t hear from him all weekend. I texted him late Sunday saying I hope he was well. He ignored it and didn’t reply to me. I think he even unfollowed me. Do you think he was grossed out by me? Was he humiliated he was soft and on something? Was it wrong that I wanted him to leave after all this?I’ve been so sad since. I really thought he liked me.... and now I feel horrific because I’m unsure if he’s to blame or if I was really rude about everything. I would like to ask him what happened, but if he’s ignoring me, then I don’t think I should push it