Accidental bodyshaming

My already tumultuous marriage has a new issue and my stupid mouth is back at the centre of it. My child has been sick so I was never on board on hanging out for the Memorial Day cookout with my wife’s friends.

One of them has had body weight issues from anorexia to getting very obese and then she “discovered” CrossFit and is back to anorexia levels and has a huge insta following with her CrossFit pics in skimpy outfits. Of course I had no issues with any of this but during the cookout, she became the centre of attention and I know they all bodyshame my wife because my wife gained significant amount of weight after the pregnancies.

So the husband of the CrossFit woman - fake Patagonia bro that I loathe - he goes that everybody else’s jealous their wives are as fit as his wife.

Awkward silence and it makes all the women uncomfortable and then he looks at me and I took the bait - “no, do I want my wife to look like a white version of an underweight Somali drought woman, No” And I became the bad guy who made the woman excuse herself and run away in tears.

I got an earful from my wife on the way back and she wants me to apologize and there’s been a raging fight in the house and I am sick of it. Why should I apologize and I don’t think I am wrong when all other wives were bodyshamed. I hate Memorial Day fuckery: I wish I had just spent my time alone in my boat. My kids wanted to sail and I should have just taken them away and have the wife have it with her stupid friends.

Submitted May 28, 2019 at 07:54PM

My already tumultuous marriage has a new issue and my stupid mouth is back at the centre of it. My child has been sick so I was never on board on hanging out for the Memorial Day cookout with my wife’s friends.One of them has had body weight issues from anorexia to getting very obese and then she “discovered” CrossFit and is back to anorexia levels and has a huge insta following with her CrossFit pics in skimpy outfits. Of course I had no issues with any of this but during the cookout, she became the centre of attention and I know they all bodyshame my wife because my wife gained significant amount of weight after the pregnancies.So the husband of the CrossFit woman - fake Patagonia bro that I loathe - he goes that everybody else’s jealous their wives are as fit as his wife.Awkward silence and it makes all the women uncomfortable and then he looks at me and I took the bait - “no, do I want my wife to look like a white version of an underweight Somali drought woman, No” And I became the bad guy who made the woman excuse herself and run away in tears.I got an earful from my wife on the way back and she wants me to apologize and there’s been a raging fight in the house and I am sick of it. Why should I apologize and I don’t think I am wrong when all other wives were bodyshamed. I hate Memorial Day fuckery: I wish I had just spent my time alone in my boat. My kids wanted to sail and I should have just taken them away and have the wife have it with her stupid friends.