Do people just not like to get to know each other on a surface level on dating apps before going on dates anymore?

I (M/24) have had Hinge for a few weeks and have a handful of matches, most of which I've sent a message to. Of that group, only two have even replied to me more than once, and those conversations didn't go far. I'll admit it's mostly surface level stuff, but I mean when I'm messaging someone I have literally only seen pictures and a brief bio of, it's usually with the idea in mind of getting to know each other a bit so they know at the very least I'm not a creep or anything. The last time I was at all active on any dating apps was about 4 years ago, and at the time I had plenty of success talking to women and that conversation pretty organically turning into meeting them in person, or at the very least talking to them for longer than a few back and forths that peter out.

With that in mind, are women just not looking for surface-level conversation before meeting anymore? I know I'm not a boring guy — I've had plenty of success talking to women, and had a pretty great thing going with a friend who just moved out of state for a few months recently that started with us texting for a week straight before meeting each other in person for the first time. So that makes me wonder if it's a dating culture shift that I'm not aware of yet. A year ago, I was still a month away from ending what would ultimately be a 3-year-long relationship, so I feel like I'm pretty fresh to the whole dating in my 20s thing. I'm not here to complain about how "I'm not attractive enough for dating app standards and it isn't fair" or any of that played out junk, just was curious. Any thoughts/advice?

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TL;DR: Have Hinge matches but they either barely respond to conversation or not at all. Do women just not like to talk on dating apps before agreeing to meet in person now?



Submitted May 29, 2019 at 05:06AM

I (M/24) have had Hinge for a few weeks and have a handful of matches, most of which I've sent a message to. Of that group, only two have even replied to me more than once, and those conversations didn't go far. I'll admit it's mostly surface level stuff, but I mean when I'm messaging someone I have literally only seen pictures and a brief bio of, it's usually with the idea in mind of getting to know each other a bit so they know at the very least I'm not a creep or anything. The last time I was at all active on any dating apps was about 4 years ago, and at the time I had plenty of success talking to women and that conversation pretty organically turning into meeting them in person, or at the very least talking to them for longer than a few back and forths that peter out.With that in mind, are women just not looking for surface-level conversation before meeting anymore? I know I'm not a boring guy — I've had plenty of success talking to women, and had a pretty great thing going with a friend who just moved out of state for a few months recently that started with us texting for a week straight before meeting each other in person for the first time. So that makes me wonder if it's a dating culture shift that I'm not aware of yet. A year ago, I was still a month away from ending what would ultimately be a 3-year-long relationship, so I feel like I'm pretty fresh to the whole dating in my 20s thing. I'm not here to complain about how "I'm not attractive enough for dating app standards and it isn't fair" or any of that played out junk, just was curious. Any thoughts/advice?​TL;DR: Have Hinge matches but they either barely respond to conversation or not at all. Do women just not like to talk on dating apps before agreeing to meet in person now?
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