Needs advice

So we are not married but I wanted to post here because I have been married and feel like I will get more mature advice then on relationships.

My bf and I split up a year ago. After 6 months we decided to try it again. Try dating and then moving forward we have been back together for 6 months. Before we split we had been together for 4 years and lived together for 3. Since we split he went back to living at his moms. So now that we are back together we are not living together right now due to his neice living there and needing a ride to school everyday. Because they live out f her school district. Well school is over and she will be getting her liscense next month. About a month ago he tells me that his friend was willing to rent US one of his properties for really cheap. I thought well that’s great we are actually gonna live together again and he wants to. So the other day we were at his moms/ his house. And he said something about wanting to get off the hill and she goes well why don’t you look for us a house. I was blown away thinking does she really want her grown son living with her forever. Does she not want him to have a meaningful relationship in life?? So after that we were riding and i Asked him about his friends property and he tells me he isn’t sure if he wants to move there or not. His mom wants him to put his name on her house so if anything happens to her he will get the house and not her other kids. Her house is no where near paid for Basically because they all have their own homes. So one day I asked him about us buying a house. He said he has a house. I said no it’s your moms not yours. I guess I feel kinda jaded. Like yes it’s gonna be his house but she is young and will prob live another 30 years or more. I also know he was married before and he bought her a ring, bought her a house and paid all the bills. I’m not looking for him to buy all those things for me but to be a partner with me in all those things. According to him his ex wife was really mean to him. But I’m not her and I work hard and I actually make more money than he does. I have two kids and pay my own way with no help of any kind. Im not looking for him to help me. I want him to be a partner with me. Over the last 6 months we have got along so great. Things have been awesome. We have spent so much tome together and found new hobbies to do together. It’s been great so I really don’t want to end things with him. I do love him dearly but I want him to take a step into our future and show he actually wants a future with me. Sorry if this is all the place just had to get it out. Thanks for listening.
Oh and we basically split up a year ago because I didn’t feel important him. We kinda fell of track. I do feel that the 6 months apart made us realize that we wanted to be together and work things. He has done many things over the past 6 months to make me feel like I am important to him.

Submitted May 29, 2019 at 12:13AM

So we are not married but I wanted to post here because I have been married and feel like I will get more mature advice then on relationships.My bf and I split up a year ago. After 6 months we decided to try it again. Try dating and then moving forward we have been back together for 6 months. Before we split we had been together for 4 years and lived together for 3. Since we split he went back to living at his moms. So now that we are back together we are not living together right now due to his neice living there and needing a ride to school everyday. Because they live out f her school district. Well school is over and she will be getting her liscense next month. About a month ago he tells me that his friend was willing to rent US one of his properties for really cheap. I thought well that’s great we are actually gonna live together again and he wants to. So the other day we were at his moms/ his house. And he said something about wanting to get off the hill and she goes well why don’t you look for us a house. I was blown away thinking does she really want her grown son living with her forever. Does she not want him to have a meaningful relationship in life?? So after that we were riding and i Asked him about his friends property and he tells me he isn’t sure if he wants to move there or not. His mom wants him to put his name on her house so if anything happens to her he will get the house and not her other kids. Her house is no where near paid for Basically because they all have their own homes. So one day I asked him about us buying a house. He said he has a house. I said no it’s your moms not yours. I guess I feel kinda jaded. Like yes it’s gonna be his house but she is young and will prob live another 30 years or more. I also know he was married before and he bought her a ring, bought her a house and paid all the bills. I’m not looking for him to buy all those things for me but to be a partner with me in all those things. According to him his ex wife was really mean to him. But I’m not her and I work hard and I actually make more money than he does. I have two kids and pay my own way with no help of any kind. Im not looking for him to help me. I want him to be a partner with me. Over the last 6 months we have got along so great. Things have been awesome. We have spent so much tome together and found new hobbies to do together. It’s been great so I really don’t want to end things with him. I do love him dearly but I want him to take a step into our future and show he actually wants a future with me. Sorry if this is all the place just had to get it out. Thanks for listening.Oh and we basically split up a year ago because I didn’t feel important him. We kinda fell of track. I do feel that the 6 months apart made us realize that we wanted to be together and work things. He has done many things over the past 6 months to make me feel like I am important to him.