Whiplash or reading into it?

So, I guess I’m confused - just like a lot of people. Here’s the situation:

M (37) and I had been texting for a few days before we went on our first day. It went great. He tells me he’ll call me the next day. We do and I’m nervous to talk to him because I like him. He calls and we’re both stuttering messes because of the same reason and apologise. He tells me he was nervous to call me because he likes me. We talk for two hours and hang up to go to bed. Next thing I know, we’re texting them back on the phone. We spoke until 1:30am for another two hours like high school kids. We spoke about how we liked each other and how we had silly thoughts about each other. We talk about what we want in the future and how we don’t want games.

We went on another great date. Everything is so easy. He tells me everything is easy in this. He says it’s too easy.

The next day comes and all is great. He calls me again. Everything is continuing like before. He says he can see himself meeting my family and would like me to be part of his family text group one day. I’m a bit freaked out but brush it off as him really liking me. We talk a bit more and then suddenly he proclaims we need to pull this back and he’s scared of getting hurt. I’m confused but agree to respect his boundaries. He then asks why I’ve become distant and I tell him I don’t know where his line is. He says he liked me the other way.

We text throughout the next day. But the messages are sporadic and he tells me he can’t stop thinking about me. He calls me that night and I’m still a bit distant. He tells me all the baby names he likes. I’m more confused because I don’t know what I’m meant to say. I thought we were pulling it back??

Since then, the texts have become even more distant in time. I ask him why he’s now playing games as I thought he liked me. He admits he’s doing it on purpose to avoid getting hurt and is worried about his own feelings. I just agree and I couldn’t be bothered with a fight. We agree to get together on the weekend.

More distant texts and it feels so stupid because he knows I know he’s avoiding me and I’m not replying back instantly to mimic him because I don’t know what he wants. He says he’ll be around late afternoon on Saturday. There’s no time or set plan on what we’re doing. What does late Saturday even mean?

I guess I’m just left wondering if he even likes me. I thought I at least deserved communication, consistency and respect even after two dates and after how he says he hasn’t felt like this for anyone since 2015.

What should I do? The more I think about it, the more exhausted I get.

Submitted May 24, 2019 at 07:11AM

So, I guess I’m confused - just like a lot of people. Here’s the situation:M (37) and I had been texting for a few days before we went on our first day. It went great. He tells me he’ll call me the next day. We do and I’m nervous to talk to him because I like him. He calls and we’re both stuttering messes because of the same reason and apologise. He tells me he was nervous to call me because he likes me. We talk for two hours and hang up to go to bed. Next thing I know, we’re texting them back on the phone. We spoke until 1:30am for another two hours like high school kids. We spoke about how we liked each other and how we had silly thoughts about each other. We talk about what we want in the future and how we don’t want games.We went on another great date. Everything is so easy. He tells me everything is easy in this. He says it’s too easy.The next day comes and all is great. He calls me again. Everything is continuing like before. He says he can see himself meeting my family and would like me to be part of his family text group one day. I’m a bit freaked out but brush it off as him really liking me. We talk a bit more and then suddenly he proclaims we need to pull this back and he’s scared of getting hurt. I’m confused but agree to respect his boundaries. He then asks why I’ve become distant and I tell him I don’t know where his line is. He says he liked me the other way.We text throughout the next day. But the messages are sporadic and he tells me he can’t stop thinking about me. He calls me that night and I’m still a bit distant. He tells me all the baby names he likes. I’m more confused because I don’t know what I’m meant to say. I thought we were pulling it back??Since then, the texts have become even more distant in time. I ask him why he’s now playing games as I thought he liked me. He admits he’s doing it on purpose to avoid getting hurt and is worried about his own feelings. I just agree and I couldn’t be bothered with a fight. We agree to get together on the weekend.More distant texts and it feels so stupid because he knows I know he’s avoiding me and I’m not replying back instantly to mimic him because I don’t know what he wants. He says he’ll be around late afternoon on Saturday. There’s no time or set plan on what we’re doing. What does late Saturday even mean?I guess I’m just left wondering if he even likes me. I thought I at least deserved communication, consistency and respect even after two dates and after how he says he hasn’t felt like this for anyone since 2015.What should I do? The more I think about it, the more exhausted I get.