When you least expect it

I don't know why things happen the way they do. I'm 33 now and I've never had any luck in relationships. The last few years, I'd put myself out there for a while and end up disappointed and demoralized.

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I ended up quitting my job last year and went back to school to improve my future. I decided not to bother looking for a girlfriend because not many girls I talked to before in their 30s would have the patience to wait until I'm done school. I removed all my dating apps, except one.

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I completely forgot about it and suddenly 4 days ago I see a notification on Facebook that someone said they liked me. Being the end of the semester, I thought I'd humor myself and see who she was. My first thought was she's very pretty, so I messaged her and started chatting with her.

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Turns out she just started looking to date again and I was the first guy she started talking to. She just ended a 7 year relationship with a guy, who she's been doing long distance with for the last two years because his family needed him back home. She told me she was trying to get back out there but not quite sure she's fully ready to be in a relationship.

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We talked about numerous subjects. From weirdness of dating apps, to our love of dogs, to how we and where we grew up. The more we talked the more bizarre it got. We both grew up in the same city, we both moved around a bit but at one point right after high school we lived within 15 minutes of each other. This girl likes and wants to try many of the same activities I enjoy.

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The more I talked to her the more I wondered if this person was a troll or I was in some lucid dream. She told me stories about herself and I understood and dealt with before. We both want the same things in terms of long term relationship. We both don't want to have kids because our families lives were so messed up.

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I honestly was prepared to give up trying to find someone and become of those guys who'd go Asia and waste his twilight years on the beaches of Thailand.

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I'm meeting this girl on Monday when she's free from work. I honestly smitten with this girl despite the fact she just got out of a relationship and I don't want to be her rebound guy. I know I should play this close to the vest and take it slow.

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I honestly believe at this age that you could never almost instantly connect with someone on an emotional, spiritual , intellectual level would be difficult. I guess it's a good reminder to never give up.



Submitted May 24, 2019 at 07:13AM

I don't know why things happen the way they do. I'm 33 now and I've never had any luck in relationships. The last few years, I'd put myself out there for a while and end up disappointed and demoralized.​I ended up quitting my job last year and went back to school to improve my future. I decided not to bother looking for a girlfriend because not many girls I talked to before in their 30s would have the patience to wait until I'm done school. I removed all my dating apps, except one.​I completely forgot about it and suddenly 4 days ago I see a notification on Facebook that someone said they liked me. Being the end of the semester, I thought I'd humor myself and see who she was. My first thought was she's very pretty, so I messaged her and started chatting with her.​Turns out she just started looking to date again and I was the first guy she started talking to. She just ended a 7 year relationship with a guy, who she's been doing long distance with for the last two years because his family needed him back home. She told me she was trying to get back out there but not quite sure she's fully ready to be in a relationship.​We talked about numerous subjects. From weirdness of dating apps, to our love of dogs, to how we and where we grew up. The more we talked the more bizarre it got. We both grew up in the same city, we both moved around a bit but at one point right after high school we lived within 15 minutes of each other. This girl likes and wants to try many of the same activities I enjoy.​The more I talked to her the more I wondered if this person was a troll or I was in some lucid dream. She told me stories about herself and I understood and dealt with before. We both want the same things in terms of long term relationship. We both don't want to have kids because our families lives were so messed up.​I honestly was prepared to give up trying to find someone and become of those guys who'd go Asia and waste his twilight years on the beaches of Thailand.​I'm meeting this girl on Monday when she's free from work. I honestly smitten with this girl despite the fact she just got out of a relationship and I don't want to be her rebound guy. I know I should play this close to the vest and take it slow.​I honestly believe at this age that you could never almost instantly connect with someone on an emotional, spiritual , intellectual level would be difficult. I guess it's a good reminder to never give up.
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