Ouch. 👻

Had a phenomenal date with a woman I’d met on Bumble about 3 weeks ago. Went to see a tribute band (of my favourite band!) and had a blast dancing, having some drinks, chatting and getting along well. End of the night we had back to mine and unexpectedly have sex - the old one thing leads to another type deal - and I drop her back at her car the next morning (still at the venue), kiss goodbye and feel pretty good about all that. Texted a few times before her having to leave on a two-week trip to see family across country, see says she had a good time and that she’d like to get together again when she gets back. Cool. We’d been texting everyday up to a couple of days before she was leaving and things seemed kosher. But a couple of days before she left, the messages from my phone were immediately turning green, not blue - so showing as sending as texts, not iMessages. Thought that’s weird but maybe not a big deal - spotty cell service or something. No response, so I wait a day and drop the “have a good trip” message... still no response. She came back Wednesday, so waited a couple days and sent a “how was your trip?” Green bubble. Research tells me that one of the signs you’ve been blocked on an iPhone is that your messages don’t have a retry and immediately show as sent via text. So I sent one message on Bumble to see if there’s any phone issue but I’m sure there’s not. It’s more disappointing to have somebody act this way. A simple “I don’t think this will work but thanks for the night out” would have sufficed. I’m a big boy. I can handle it. I’ve been through worse. But to block me? I’m definitely no nutcase, so that seems a needlessly harsh. Just typing stuff out here because I see all of your stories and I think we all appreciate what we’re all going through. Dark clouds make us appreciate the brighter days even more.

Submitted May 25, 2019 at 04:25AM

Had a phenomenal date with a woman I’d met on Bumble about 3 weeks ago. Went to see a tribute band (of my favourite band!) and had a blast dancing, having some drinks, chatting and getting along well. End of the night we had back to mine and unexpectedly have sex - the old one thing leads to another type deal - and I drop her back at her car the next morning (still at the venue), kiss goodbye and feel pretty good about all that. Texted a few times before her having to leave on a two-week trip to see family across country, see says she had a good time and that she’d like to get together again when she gets back. Cool. We’d been texting everyday up to a couple of days before she was leaving and things seemed kosher. But a couple of days before she left, the messages from my phone were immediately turning green, not blue - so showing as sending as texts, not iMessages. Thought that’s weird but maybe not a big deal - spotty cell service or something. No response, so I wait a day and drop the “have a good trip” message... still no response. She came back Wednesday, so waited a couple days and sent a “how was your trip?” Green bubble. Research tells me that one of the signs you’ve been blocked on an iPhone is that your messages don’t have a retry and immediately show as sent via text. So I sent one message on Bumble to see if there’s any phone issue but I’m sure there’s not. It’s more disappointing to have somebody act this way. A simple “I don’t think this will work but thanks for the night out” would have sufficed. I’m a big boy. I can handle it. I’ve been through worse. But to block me? I’m definitely no nutcase, so that seems a needlessly harsh. Just typing stuff out here because I see all of your stories and I think we all appreciate what we’re all going through. Dark clouds make us appreciate the brighter days even more.