I think I might have an unhealthy obsession with my crush. I would rather die single than to be with a person that’s not him!! Is that normal?

I’m a 20-year-old college student. A few weeks ago, I was studying at the library & a random guy approached me to ask for directions to a place. We ended up chatting for almost 3 hours!! I learned that he’s a math prodigy & he came to our college to do a four-month internship with a prof. I was impressed to learn that he’s only my age & already doing Ph.D. level work!! He was not only intelligent but also very humble, funny & good looking. We have the same sense of humor & also the same taste in music!! After our conversation, I felt I had met my dream guy! We exchanged numbers & said we would keep in touch! Now, I go to campus daily just to “ accidentally “ bump into him. I feel anxiety & empty when I don’t see him. I often think to myself that maybe I’m not good enough for him. I felt a sizzling chemistry with him & I can’t imagine being with anyone else. I feel like I’ll never find a guy that’ll measure up to him. I also feel that if I end up with someone else, I’ll just be settling for something less. I don’t think I will be able to have sex with a guy that’s not him or have children with a man that’s not his lol.

tl: DR I know I sound dramatic AF but my true feelings are indeed this heightened!! I’m wondering if that’s normal!! Did anybody else experience the same thing? Were u able to get over it?



Submitted May 25, 2019 at 05:33AM

I’m a 20-year-old college student. A few weeks ago, I was studying at the library & a random guy approached me to ask for directions to a place. We ended up chatting for almost 3 hours!! I learned that he’s a math prodigy & he came to our college to do a four-month internship with a prof. I was impressed to learn that he’s only my age & already doing Ph.D. level work!! He was not only intelligent but also very humble, funny & good looking. We have the same sense of humor & also the same taste in music!! After our conversation, I felt I had met my dream guy! We exchanged numbers & said we would keep in touch! Now, I go to campus daily just to “ accidentally “ bump into him. I feel anxiety & empty when I don’t see him. I often think to myself that maybe I’m not good enough for him. I felt a sizzling chemistry with him & I can’t imagine being with anyone else. I feel like I’ll never find a guy that’ll measure up to him. I also feel that if I end up with someone else, I’ll just be settling for something less. I don’t think I will be able to have sex with a guy that’s not him or have children with a man that’s not his lol.tl: DR I know I sound dramatic AF but my true feelings are indeed this heightened!! I’m wondering if that’s normal!! Did anybody else experience the same thing? Were u able to get over it?
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