Hello! I’m f19 and I met m26 online. We have been talking for about a month and he keeps asking to meet up which I politely decline since I am living with my parents and they would never approve of me meeting someone online. He respects that and asks to remain friends. We snap and text everyday and he asked me if I was on birth control which sorta bothered me since it seems like he only wants me for sex. I’m confused why he would want to remain friends, and if he was hoping I would eventually change my mind. I had clearly told him no. Submitted April 01, 2021 at 12:05AM Hello! I’m f19 and I met m26 online. We have been talking for about a month and he keeps asking to meet up which I politely decline since I am living with my parents and they would never approve of me meeting someone online. He respects that and asks to remain friends. We snap and text everyday and he asked me if I was on birth control which sorta bothered me since it seems like he only wants me for sex. I’m conf...

I think the worst dating advice is “if they like you, you’ll know.” I rage when I hear this because every situation is so complex and there can be so many factors that would prevent someone from making a move even if they really like you. Thoughts? Submitted April 01, 2021 at 12:06AM I think the worst dating advice is “if they like you, you’ll know.”I rage when I hear this because every situation is so complex and there can be so many factors that would prevent someone from making a move even if they really like you. Thoughts?

I'll probably delete this cause I already feel lame, but as the title suggests- New to the neighborhood, got welcomed in by everybody on the block. I was smoking with this couple around my age across the street, and their male friend (also apparently a neighbor). Me and the guy definitely hit it off, and he even walked me "home" even though it was a minute down the street. Kinda regret not asking for his number but since it was my first time meeting him that felt like a lot- but now I don't know when I'll see him again! Would it be super cringe of me to low key bring him up next time I see one of the people in the "couple" and ask about him? 😭😂 Submitted April 01, 2021 at 12:07AM I'll probably delete this cause I already feel lame, but as the title suggests-New to the neighborhood, got welcomed in by everybody on the block. I was smoking with this couple around my age across the street, and their male friend (also apparently a neighbor).M...

Hi , I’ve posted here before when I was in the rejection stage with a women therefore I will try to just get to the point. A women I was pursuing (she had high interest in me as well) kindly rejected me due to over pursuing. When I stopped she texts me back and I attempted again (within a few days) - I told her I was interested in a few women but felt there was potential btwn us but if she rly meant she wants to just stay friends I accept her decision. She harshly rejects me addressing me as homie saying she’s not interested in being in a relationship with me & I didn’t say anything. She then texts me back at 1 in the morning saying sorry that sounded rude that was my friends who sent that also I’m seeing the guy I was initially interested in hoping we can still be friends. I replied two days later saying I’d appreciate some space thanks. She is now harassing/bullying me at work telling everyone about the situation. It is true I should’ve stopped after the first no and I deeply re...

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This video induces happy and calm feelings. Following him on Twitter now, thanks for sharing! March 31, 2021 at 11:44PM

I can become incredibly interested in one topic, learning everything about it ,then never think about it after a week March 31, 2021 at 11:42PM

Vivian March 31, 2021 at 11:36PM

It wasn't really experimenting. I was just a dumbass who tries to force things. I kinda suspected I was ace when I was 14 (I'm 22, now) but it didn't really click that most people are really hornballs until I had a few relationships (both sides) and eventually was like, "Fuck it. This is too stressful." March 31, 2021 at 11:32PM

Would also like to know this please ha March 31, 2021 at 11:24PM

Violetta Grace March 31, 2021 at 11:24PM

Oh, I read this as a them trying to be clever and say "sex you all night" XD March 31, 2021 at 11:21PM

"hey baby, I'm great in bed ;) I can sleep for daaays " "If I could rearrange the alphabet...I would leave "U" and "I" exactly where they are, you know, so we have an appropriate amount of space between us." "So I heard you like bad boies. Well I'm bad aT EVERYTHING let's go have cake instead!!" "Do you believe in friends at first sight, or should I walk by again?" "Feel my shirt. Know what it's made of? Friend material." Edit: "Know what's on the menu? Me-n'-u. But on opposite sides of the table" March 31, 2021 at 11:21PM

Your "friend" needs to learn some education and respect, or you need new friends March 31, 2021 at 11:18PM

I can bend my pinkie into a square and it scares my mom March 31, 2021 at 11:16PM

^ Demiromantic ace here, and anything would be helpful :) March 31, 2021 at 11:14PM

Haha 😆 March 31, 2021 at 11:13PM

An aroace one I found on Amazon. March 31, 2021 at 11:13PM

I am going to tell people this if they ask my sexuality March 31, 2021 at 11:13PM

Fuck [that subreddit] but this one is funny March 31, 2021 at 11:12PM

Oh, neat, which flag is that? March 31, 2021 at 11:11PM

Good bot March 30, 2021 at 11:56PM

Maybe it's Maybelline March 30, 2021 at 11:54PM

At least they’re not hiding their hate. YT comments are toxic. So are Twitter and Instagram comments. March 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

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Ooooo! March 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

That came out really good butterflys are hard to make. March 30, 2021 at 11:50PM

yeah I'm sorry that stupid joke I made March 30, 2021 at 11:50PM

I don’t think I’d have the courage to tell my psychiatrist that I’m asexual. To me it is an irrelevance. Though yeah it’s a facet of me, I just don’t think she needs to know. March 30, 2021 at 11:49PM

nah its just funny March 30, 2021 at 11:46PM

There will always be cake in the end. March 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

I relate. Minus the watching another woman undress. I want no part in that. I’ve never been sexually attracted to a woman’s (or male’s body). Comes with my boundaries. March 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

Lile this? https://www.etsy.com/listing/576717578/6mm-onyx-stacking-ring-onyx-ring-black?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=black+onyx+ring&ref=sr_gallery-1-4&from_market_listing_grid_organic=1&bes=1 March 30, 2021 at 11:42PM

I found my ring on Amazon, but it’s just a thin, plain black stainless steel band (I like the simple rings). I guess it just depends on what style you like? But I think you might ought to shop around more, if you feel like you ultimately won’t like the hematite one. :) Here’s a link to the one I have if you wanna check it out. March 30, 2021 at 11:41PM

Dang I was questioning my romantic label myself and realized this fits almost perfectly, thanks for the minilesson and congrats on your realization! March 30, 2021 at 11:41PM

Ooh I got one "Your existence brings me a Joy I haven't felt since I was a child!" I said that one to my Former BFF and we just used it time to time. March 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

aw don't beat youself up about it March 30, 2021 at 11:38PM

same, i was like im down now??? March 30, 2021 at 11:36PM

If someone refers to their cat as a pussy run the other way. March 30, 2021 at 11:36PM

Ooh weird! Well, pretty sure I’ve never felt anything like that! But about the original post, to expand on my reply. It’s definitely possible that you could feel certain attractions to women, and others toward men. I get aesthetic and sensual attraction towards men, but I don’t want a romantic relationship with them. Just being close friends is nice, so I can talk to them and hang out with them or whatever. Or just stare at their pretty faces 😅 (too creepy? Lol) I’ve had instances of quite strong sensual attraction towards men, and I thought it was romantic attraction at the time because I didn’t know any different. March 30, 2021 at 11:35PM

I went and found the comment on youtube, still only had those two replies, so I dropped a comment letting them know that I appreciate them. March 30, 2021 at 11:35PM

But I mean with world domination and dragons, you can get all of the cake you want March 30, 2021 at 11:28PM

It's so pretty!!!!!! March 30, 2021 at 11:27PM

It's sort of weird to describe. I suppose sometimes I see someone, and I'm just intensely drawn to and attracted to them. I want to know more about them, I quickly become infatuated with them and even if I know nothing about them and they're not even my preference for aesthetic attractiveness I'll be hanging off their every word. It is kind of weird and rereading my own words feels like when I read those weird definitions of sexual attraction and think there's no way that can exist but it apparently does March 30, 2021 at 11:23PM

nice, thanks! March 29, 2021 at 11:59PM

I got your two posts together on my home page! Happy Birthday! March 29, 2021 at 11:58PM

Oh I didn't mean it that way, I was just making a joke. March 29, 2021 at 11:58PM

Whoops, my bad I should have said gremlin things instead (I'll fix it) .....but yeah like anyone can do those things, sorry for being exclusive, I said "gay gremlin things" because I am gay, sorry for putting out a "don't care about the straights" vibe March 29, 2021 at 11:57PM

Happy Birthday March 29, 2021 at 11:56PM

Welcome to the club March 29, 2021 at 11:56PM

thank you! March 29, 2021 at 11:55PM

I do this with my best friend all the time (well, not during times like these, but you get the point) and nobody bats an eye. Her parents don't know me, and my parents accept that we love eachother as friends. :) March 29, 2021 at 11:55PM

happy birthday, fellow ace-spec!! many more to come! March 29, 2021 at 11:55PM

I'm glad you found out who you are!!!! I'm sorry for all of the shit you had to go through tho. I know you'll find yourself a great group of friends who will love and support you no matter what you do. March 29, 2021 at 11:50PM

Asexuality is very specifically about not experiencing sexual attraction towards others. That's the entire deal. If you don't experience sexual attraction towards others, you're asexual. It's not all that complicated, really. It doesn't matter why. Could be trauma, hormones, or you were just always that way. Cause is irrelevant to the label. Asexuality has nothing to do with: romantic attraction, kissing, cuddling, gender preferences, masturbation, porn, kinks, or actually having sex. It's just about sexual attraction towards others. Some sex repulsed asexuals will use porn or masturbate even though they'd have no interest in the real thing, because with fantasy you can skip the stuff you wouldn't like in reality. The asexual spectrum basically sort of goes --- Sex Repulsed: Usually avoid sex --- #1: Repulsed by comments about sex or others having sex #2: Repulsed by the reality of having sex personally #3: Willing to have sex, but may be disguste...

Happy Birthday! March 29, 2021 at 11:48PM

Happy birthday Bro! Love U March 29, 2021 at 11:47PM

I probably won’t either. I’m just surprised it exists! March 29, 2021 at 11:47PM

One could imagine that some shame could be involved if you spent all your time and energy attempting to have sex, but failing. I could imagine how that could be considered a failure, if you made that your goal in life. The real sad part is that they can't comprehend that someone might not have that as their goal in life. Often the person doing the mocking is really only revealing their own inadequacies. It's like someone trying to mock me for being a SJW. Sure, there are idiot SJWs out there, as with any group, but I will always wear the label of SJW with pride. March 29, 2021 at 11:47PM

Congrats non-binary pal! March 29, 2021 at 11:47PM

I relate to like all of the comments This is one of the reasons I love this sub so much!!!!!!! March 29, 2021 at 11:46PM

Then you can try out your new pokemon's attacks on the girls! March 29, 2021 at 11:45PM

When I was in high school I was excited to go over to my girlfriend’s house when her parents weren’t home. I never thought once about sex, I just liked it because I could talk to her more easily and not have to worry about them being there lol (her parents were also religious and conservative which made me uncomfortable since I didn’t come from a religious background) March 29, 2021 at 11:45PM

🥳 March 29, 2021 at 11:45PM

sameeeeee March 29, 2021 at 11:44PM

This post is me! I don't like being called out like this lol..... March 29, 2021 at 11:43PM

thank you! March 29, 2021 at 11:41PM

First of all I love its amazing and second ive seen a lot of people wear the ace ring on a chain so if you did want to have a ace ring but dont wanna wear it thats a option. March 29, 2021 at 12:05AM

of course it is. asexualtiy is the absence of sexual attraction. a lot of aces have libidos and stuff. March 29, 2021 at 12:04AM

....I want a dragon.... March 29, 2021 at 12:04AM

I hate having a libido and being ace honestly. I wish I didn't get horny at all, I just don't want to have sex with people and don't see people and go "ooh sexy i fuck" March 29, 2021 at 12:04AM

This is awesome!! I want one!! March 29, 2021 at 12:03AM

I’m not alone March 29, 2021 at 12:01AM

Love it! March 28, 2021 at 11:55PM

This one work made you uncomfortable? That must mean you hate everything that artist has ever done ever. /s March 28, 2021 at 11:46PM

Have you considered r/aegosexuals ? March 28, 2021 at 11:43PM

That makes sense. Well, whatever happens, I hope everything works out between you two. March 28, 2021 at 11:37PM

That would be aesthetic attraction i think! Honestly, it's complicated and i don't really understand it myself either, though i do relate. It seems like that goes for most people here though. I'm still not 100% sure if i've ever felt sexual attraction but i'm just going with the label because it seems to fit me the best. I suggest you do some more research and just go with what feels best to you :) March 28, 2021 at 11:34PM

I do have some ideas on what could have caused this, or what could have fed into my fear, so I'm going to try talking to a professional. Thank you for the advice! I appreciate how understanding you are of me lol, and thank you for the help! :) March 28, 2021 at 11:33PM

sounds interesting March 28, 2021 at 11:31PM

Is it alright to be that and ace? March 28, 2021 at 11:29PM

Yeah this show was on from like 2015-2020, I think this episode was from 2016 but the plot was supposed to be in the 90s March 28, 2021 at 11:29PM

Thanks for the advice! I'll post a similar thing there and see what comes from it. Again, thank you for your help. March 28, 2021 at 11:28PM

You might want to look into aegosexual, there is a better description than I could do in the wiki : https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/wiki/grey-asexuality March 28, 2021 at 11:22PM

repisentation in the mid-90s? impossible! March 28, 2021 at 11:17PM

Agreed on both those facts (cake is good too :3) Remember some things like what your attractions are can be a 'slow click'. You may dismiss it in the start only to slowly realize that it might be the case. At least that's what happened to me haha (took me 2 years). Also my parents haven't even wondered as well. My country has really low awareness on these things and dating was not the norm for my parents. That's why they just assume I'm just a normal person and have never questioned me lol. March 28, 2021 at 11:15PM

good for you March 28, 2021 at 11:13PM

I feel you! You should look into QPR(Queer platonic relationships) or try to find people who identify as the same labels as you. Of course you can find what you want in any kind of partner but typically this is easier to do as you don't really need to worry about differences in expectation. Idk how to find these people tho lol I'm confused myself. I'm actually ace/aro and still want certain aspects of a relationship without the sex and other ewww sounding aspects since that sounds really nice tbh. That's why I found the concept of QPR so nice! March 28, 2021 at 11:09PM

question from someone who like Asians How do you want to be approached by a non asian person who just want to be a normal friend? I mean i don't like all asian blindly ,if they a shitty personality then bye bye but i am just asking in case i liked an asian person that i personally know and wanted to be their friend .I want to know how can i approach you without making you think the only reason i want to be your friend is because you are asian? March 28, 2021 at 11:08PM

I know what you mean, I tried to make my bio clear that wasn't looking for sex. I also properly read their profiles and see how many just want or mostly want sex. March 28, 2021 at 11:08PM

I can make anyone laugh . No matter how grumpy or depressed I can make em laugh ! March 28, 2021 at 12:02AM

cries in Jasnah Kholin March 28, 2021 at 12:00AM

As an Arkansas Demi, I can confirm that there is a law being passed for minors. It would prevent minors from getting surgery or hormones to transition, the law would not citizens over the age of 18 from hormone therapy or surgery. The bill is designed to prevent trans youth from totally transitioning at a young age. While Arkansas is not the best state when it comes to LGBT, most people are more moderate, and a lot of young people in the state, many of who lean more conservative, can plainly see that some laws passed by our state are wrong. I hope in the future we can get the more egregious laws repealed. March 27, 2021 at 11:57PM

That would actually be really cool because when I was younger, she was my favorite princess, and now I'm ace! March 27, 2021 at 11:50PM

I just wish the person throwing the tank wasn't an active advocate for an ongoing ethnic cleansing March 27, 2021 at 11:49PM

Really?! I listened to the book as an audiobook and know I missed part of it. March 27, 2021 at 11:48PM

Sexual attraction (as it's been described to me) feels like this: That girl is so pretty!!! I want to have sex with her so badly!!! Some aces confuse sexual attraction with asethetic attraction, which feels like this: That girl is so pretty!!! So you if you see someone and want to have sex with them based on appearance, that's sexual attraction. If you only feel a little bit of sexual attraction, then you may want to look into grayasexuality :) March 27, 2021 at 11:48PM

I'm an ace aram player. I'll give you my summoner name if you'd ever wanna play. March 27, 2021 at 11:47PM

I mean, lesbian and ace woman coding overlap, because in a heteronormative society, it's noticeable when a woman doesn't show interest in men. I also tend to see her as aroace, but I'm hardly going to blame the people who read her as lesbian. We all have scraps for rep, and fighting over them helps none of us. March 27, 2021 at 11:46PM

narrows eyes purple whispers ace culture March 27, 2021 at 11:40PM

Agreed, proper ace/aro vibes from her imo March 27, 2021 at 11:39PM

I love this so much March 27, 2021 at 11:39PM

I would actually argue that we haven't seen a strictly sexual Disney princess either, except for Ariel, the only Disney Princess to have a child(to my recollection, which should be better than this, considering my massive love of Disney). Most of them we know are at least heteroromantic, or biromantic; the ones we have no idea about are Elsa(who isn't technically part of the Disney Princess line), Merida, and Moana, none of which have had a partner in their films or even shown interest in one(especially Merida). I should also say, it's clear that most of them are supposed to be heterosexual, but most of them Disney could easily retcon and it changes nothing about the stories. March 27, 2021 at 11:38PM

*looks at Sherlock* March 27, 2021 at 11:38PM

Excellent March 27, 2021 at 11:38PM

Be the madlad and the next time you visit her do not wear anything March 27, 2021 at 11:33PM

There's also a dragon snake, which is only just beginning to have success in captivity! Hopefully in the next 2 decades or so we'll be able to breed and keep them in private collections March 27, 2021 at 11:31PM

Is there only one chapter so far? March 27, 2021 at 11:30PM

Yes but the third act was so bad. Many people said they were crying during that. I thought that I was crying for a second as well, but then I checked again and it was just my eyes bleeding March 27, 2021 at 11:29PM

Eh. As long as sexualizing them stays out of the show, I don't give a shit. March 27, 2021 at 11:28PM