What should i do from here?

I(20M) been seeing this girl(19F) for a few months. We met in a friends' party and i thought she was amazing so i texted her a few days later to get to know her. We texted a lot and got to know each other very well i guess and i fell in love with her for everything she actually is. We used to meet each other a couple times a week but i never made any move nor did she, i like to have everything settled down before i make the move since i've had some previous relationships that were hurtful.

Anyway, 3 weeks ago after we met, I said I wanted to talk to her, i had to make the move since it wasnt bearable for me anymore not to say anything and i confessed my feelings towards her. I asked her to be honest, if she didnt like my just tell me, it's fine, i just wanted to know where to go from there with my life. She said the problem wasnt in the feelings she had for me, because she liked me as well, but the future and what she's going through right now. We discussed the future and i guess i gave her some security about it and then there was this problem: she said that at the moment she is going through. she didnt think she would be able to commit to the relationship the way i would, which wouldnt be fair for me and she thought she would hurt me and she didnt want to. I tried to confort her by saying i would do everything for the relationship and i wanted to support her in whatever is going on with her. I said she didnt have to give an answer right away, i wouldnt force anything and tried to give her some security again and conforted her. After this she went home.

Im not being impacient, i can give her as much time as she wants, but i'd just like to hear anything from her or hangout with her, but ever since we haven't talked again. I didn't text her because i dont want to pressure her into doing anything nor do i want her to be overwhelmed about it. I just don't know if im doing anything wrong, that's why i ask for your help. Should i say anything? Just keep giving her time? I really like her and i dont find a connection like this very often, that's why i dont want to fuck this up and just be sure that im doing the right call.



Submitted March 22, 2021 at 12:05AM

I(20M) been seeing this girl(19F) for a few months. We met in a friends' party and i thought she was amazing so i texted her a few days later to get to know her. We texted a lot and got to know each other very well i guess and i fell in love with her for everything she actually is. We used to meet each other a couple times a week but i never made any move nor did she, i like to have everything settled down before i make the move since i've had some previous relationships that were hurtful.Anyway, 3 weeks ago after we met, I said I wanted to talk to her, i had to make the move since it wasnt bearable for me anymore not to say anything and i confessed my feelings towards her. I asked her to be honest, if she didnt like my just tell me, it's fine, i just wanted to know where to go from there with my life. She said the problem wasnt in the feelings she had for me, because she liked me as well, but the future and what she's going through right now. We discussed the future and i guess i gave her some security about it and then there was this problem: she said that at the moment she is going through. she didnt think she would be able to commit to the relationship the way i would, which wouldnt be fair for me and she thought she would hurt me and she didnt want to. I tried to confort her by saying i would do everything for the relationship and i wanted to support her in whatever is going on with her. I said she didnt have to give an answer right away, i wouldnt force anything and tried to give her some security again and conforted her. After this she went home.Im not being impacient, i can give her as much time as she wants, but i'd just like to hear anything from her or hangout with her, but ever since we haven't talked again. I didn't text her because i dont want to pressure her into doing anything nor do i want her to be overwhelmed about it. I just don't know if im doing anything wrong, that's why i ask for your help. Should i say anything? Just keep giving her time? I really like her and i dont find a connection like this very often, that's why i dont want to fuck this up and just be sure that im doing the right call.
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