PSA: rejection is not easy for the giver either

In a world full of people that ghost and flake, have you ever stopped to wonder how we have came to this? In my opinion (and that is all it is), I think it has a lot to do with how poorly people handle rejection. On both ends. I'm trying to do my part by very tactfully and nicely rejecting someone when we are not a fit. Sometimes this bites me in the face. Last night I matched with a guy, we were having normal conversation when he suddenly asks if I'm a bot or a real poly chick. I typed out some robot sounds and then told him I was a real poly chick. Next words out of his mouth are something to the effect of how I like several male appendages at once. I told him that I had enjoyed the conversation and good luck on his search. Next thing I know he is insulting me and the way I look and then blocked me. If someone is willing to do the hard thing and actually tell you no, especially in a nice manner after you have been rude, just say thank you back and go about your day.

PSA #2: if you are lucky enough to run across someone that practices ethical non monogamy please don't assume that it is about sex. Ethical non monogamy comes in many forms and only some are solely sex based. Please don't assume that we cannot have a relationship just as deeply committed and loving as the one you have. We do deep commitments very well actually and we have real human feelings too :)

Submitted May 08, 2019 at 04:03PM

In a world full of people that ghost and flake, have you ever stopped to wonder how we have came to this? In my opinion (and that is all it is), I think it has a lot to do with how poorly people handle rejection. On both ends. I'm trying to do my part by very tactfully and nicely rejecting someone when we are not a fit. Sometimes this bites me in the face. Last night I matched with a guy, we were having normal conversation when he suddenly asks if I'm a bot or a real poly chick. I typed out some robot sounds and then told him I was a real poly chick. Next words out of his mouth are something to the effect of how I like several male appendages at once. I told him that I had enjoyed the conversation and good luck on his search. Next thing I know he is insulting me and the way I look and then blocked me. If someone is willing to do the hard thing and actually tell you no, especially in a nice manner after you have been rude, just say thank you back and go about your day.PSA #2: if you are lucky enough to run across someone that practices ethical non monogamy please don't assume that it is about sex. Ethical non monogamy comes in many forms and only some are solely sex based. Please don't assume that we cannot have a relationship just as deeply committed and loving as the one you have. We do deep commitments very well actually and we have real human feelings too :)