Is it all just a numbers game?

Perhaps it’s more about statistics than anything else... Maybe the type of app you use, the opening line in a new chat, or even your profile pic isn’t the most important thing to consider when dating these days. It seems to me that the single male to single female ratio (and vice versa) for the population in your area within a reasonable age span is what really allows the most or least opportunities for a new relationship. Sounds obvious, but really is something that only occurred to me in the past few years while traveling to other parts of the country. I live in the Baltimore area and consistently find that good first dates are hard to find and the dating pool looks like this. I mean, I know we all have a bit of baggage at this stage of our lives but man have I been on a streak of baaaaad dates. It’s been either people who are nothing like what they represent themselves to be over messaging/their profile, guys that seem alright but kinda fall off the face of the earth, or guys that want to party it up on a random Tuesday like we are still in undergrad when I can’t hang like that anymore and still get up and go to work the next day. When I started to travel more for work I noticed a shift in the pool toward the positive in other areas. Portland is a good example. There were nice-looking men walking about everywhere who were polite, would hold open doors and start up random chats. One even sweetly asked me if I would like to go to dinner as he was from the area and would be happy to show me around. All of this, mind you, without even using an app!
Perhaps I just need to do research on the numbers and move somewhere else...

Submitted May 09, 2019 at 01:03AM

Perhaps it’s more about statistics than anything else... Maybe the type of app you use, the opening line in a new chat, or even your profile pic isn’t the most important thing to consider when dating these days. It seems to me that the single male to single female ratio (and vice versa) for the population in your area within a reasonable age span is what really allows the most or least opportunities for a new relationship. Sounds obvious, but really is something that only occurred to me in the past few years while traveling to other parts of the country. I live in the Baltimore area and consistently find that good first dates are hard to find and the dating pool looks like this. I mean, I know we all have a bit of baggage at this stage of our lives but man have I been on a streak of baaaaad dates. It’s been either people who are nothing like what they represent themselves to be over messaging/their profile, guys that seem alright but kinda fall off the face of the earth, or guys that want to party it up on a random Tuesday like we are still in undergrad when I can’t hang like that anymore and still get up and go to work the next day. When I started to travel more for work I noticed a shift in the pool toward the positive in other areas. Portland is a good example. There were nice-looking men walking about everywhere who were polite, would hold open doors and start up random chats. One even sweetly asked me if I would like to go to dinner as he was from the area and would be happy to show me around. All of this, mind you, without even using an app!Perhaps I just need to do research on the numbers and move somewhere else...