Does anyone else have to actively try not to let your brain get ahead of itself when it seems like you’re hitting it off with a new person?

I’ve been talking to this girl I met through Tinder for the past couple of days, and it’s been pretty nice. It’s been awhile since I’ve had conversation flow so effortlessly with someone. We haven’t even met up in person yet, though, and my brain keeps giving me these flashes of what-ifs about a future as though there’s waaaay more to it than just a bit of solid conversation. I keep having to tell myself to slow the fuck down. I don’t even know this person yet.

The last time I remember something similar happening ended up being a big disappointment when I got turned down for a second date. I didn’t have expectations or anything, but the possibility of something significant being there was very exciting and it sucked when it didn’t pan out.

Since then I’ve chatted with plenty of people and gone on some dates but nothing has really clicked at all. I’ve also started some new anti-depression/anxiety meds, and I’m wondering if those kicking in might be a part of this excitement popping back up. I don’t hate it, I just know it’ll probably suck at some point for a bit.

Is this kind of thing common? Is getting excited about something for little to no reason, even knowing full well it may not work out in a way you would like, just par for the course for well adjusted human beings with standard functioning brain chemistry?

I figure it’s at least good to be a little aware of the possibility that my brain might be getting ahead of the reality of the situation.

Submitted May 08, 2019 at 11:52PM

I’ve been talking to this girl I met through Tinder for the past couple of days, and it’s been pretty nice. It’s been awhile since I’ve had conversation flow so effortlessly with someone. We haven’t even met up in person yet, though, and my brain keeps giving me these flashes of what-ifs about a future as though there’s waaaay more to it than just a bit of solid conversation. I keep having to tell myself to slow the fuck down. I don’t even know this person yet.The last time I remember something similar happening ended up being a big disappointment when I got turned down for a second date. I didn’t have expectations or anything, but the possibility of something significant being there was very exciting and it sucked when it didn’t pan out.Since then I’ve chatted with plenty of people and gone on some dates but nothing has really clicked at all. I’ve also started some new anti-depression/anxiety meds, and I’m wondering if those kicking in might be a part of this excitement popping back up. I don’t hate it, I just know it’ll probably suck at some point for a bit.Is this kind of thing common? Is getting excited about something for little to no reason, even knowing full well it may not work out in a way you would like, just par for the course for well adjusted human beings with standard functioning brain chemistry?I figure it’s at least good to be a little aware of the possibility that my brain might be getting ahead of the reality of the situation.