I’m I being anxious and paranoid, or is she no longer interested?

I 32m have been dating a girl 25f since around February. We made it official around mid March. We met organically through a mutual friend and we really did hit it off. At the beginning of April I had to travel out of town for about a month for a work trip. Having now returned, things seem different. Despite the fact that we were counting down to the day we’d see each other when I got back, she now seems distant.

While I was away she went through some stuff with her family, that emotionally affected her severely. She told me that she was depressed and wasn’t sleeping too well. I tried to be there for her emotionally as much as I could while away. We video chatted often and texted a lot everyday.

When we met after my return, she warned me that she currently is going through an anxiety phase and so she may be a little off. She also has finals for her masters program right now. We had agreed to discuss what had happened with her family after I got back, but she said we’d discuss it after her finals are over, which is about a week from now. We’ve been taking longer to respond to each other’s texts and our text messages to each other have gotten shorter and shorter. It feels super weird to me. I feel like our relationship is pretty much over. Tomorrow I am supposed to go and watch her perform at an event. We planned this 3 days ago. I am not sure if now she even wants me to come to the event, or if I’d just make her uncomfortable if I went. It’s only been 4 days since I got back, but the silence between us is deafening and I just don’t know what to do. I just feel like she’s not into it any more. The thought of this is crushing me because I really do like her a lot. After years of terrible OLD experiences, the thought of this not working out inspires lots of sadness especially because I met her organically.

This could all be in my head though. What should I do? Should I discuss this with her? She did warn me that she’d be busy and that she is going through some anxiety right now. How should I broach the subject with her? Any advice would be highly appreciated.

TLDR: I’m afraid that her distant demeanor is because she’s no longer interested in being in a relationship with me.



Submitted May 08, 2019 at 09:31PM

I 32m have been dating a girl 25f since around February. We made it official around mid March. We met organically through a mutual friend and we really did hit it off. At the beginning of April I had to travel out of town for about a month for a work trip. Having now returned, things seem different. Despite the fact that we were counting down to the day we’d see each other when I got back, she now seems distant.While I was away she went through some stuff with her family, that emotionally affected her severely. She told me that she was depressed and wasn’t sleeping too well. I tried to be there for her emotionally as much as I could while away. We video chatted often and texted a lot everyday.When we met after my return, she warned me that she currently is going through an anxiety phase and so she may be a little off. She also has finals for her masters program right now. We had agreed to discuss what had happened with her family after I got back, but she said we’d discuss it after her finals are over, which is about a week from now. We’ve been taking longer to respond to each other’s texts and our text messages to each other have gotten shorter and shorter. It feels super weird to me. I feel like our relationship is pretty much over. Tomorrow I am supposed to go and watch her perform at an event. We planned this 3 days ago. I am not sure if now she even wants me to come to the event, or if I’d just make her uncomfortable if I went. It’s only been 4 days since I got back, but the silence between us is deafening and I just don’t know what to do. I just feel like she’s not into it any more. The thought of this is crushing me because I really do like her a lot. After years of terrible OLD experiences, the thought of this not working out inspires lots of sadness especially because I met her organically.This could all be in my head though. What should I do? Should I discuss this with her? She did warn me that she’d be busy and that she is going through some anxiety right now. How should I broach the subject with her? Any advice would be highly appreciated.TLDR: I’m afraid that her distant demeanor is because she’s no longer interested in being in a relationship with me.
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