My(m21) gf(f22) thinks im still in love with this other girl, and Im afraid our relationsship will never be the same.

Me and my girlfriend has been in a relationship for about 13 months. We have had the talk where we went over past intimate relationships, and I mentioned this girl I was dating for about 2 months when I was 17. Ever since I mentioned her I have found her stalking this girl, and she has been mentioning that she is insecure. Yesterday, however, she demanded to look through my texts with this girl on facebook. I had a conversation with her 9 months ago, and although it wasn't directly dirty it could appear flirty. I didn't even remember to have this conversation, so I was pretty shocked as well. Me and this past girl was pretty close friends in high school, then we started dating for a brief period of about 2 months, which also involved sex maybe 2-3 times. We broke it off, but remained pretty close friends. After seeing the text I have been unable to have a proper conversation with my girlfriend. She thinks she is nr2, and if I got the opportunity to get back with my "ex", I would take it, which is not true at all. I love my girlfriend and she is the only girl i'm ever thinking about. I'm devastated and pissed that I had a conversation with my ex 9 months ago, it was really wrong. I need help on how to convince my girlfriend that she really is the one, and try to get our relationship back on track.

TL;DR: My(m21) girlfriend(f22) has been insecure about an ex girlfriend. Yesterday she saw a conversation I had with her 9 months ago, and i'm afraid our relationship will never be the same.



Submitted April 27, 2019 at 05:51AM

Me and my girlfriend has been in a relationship for about 13 months. We have had the talk where we went over past intimate relationships, and I mentioned this girl I was dating for about 2 months when I was 17. Ever since I mentioned her I have found her stalking this girl, and she has been mentioning that she is insecure. Yesterday, however, she demanded to look through my texts with this girl on facebook. I had a conversation with her 9 months ago, and although it wasn't directly dirty it could appear flirty. I didn't even remember to have this conversation, so I was pretty shocked as well. Me and this past girl was pretty close friends in high school, then we started dating for a brief period of about 2 months, which also involved sex maybe 2-3 times. We broke it off, but remained pretty close friends. After seeing the text I have been unable to have a proper conversation with my girlfriend. She thinks she is nr2, and if I got the opportunity to get back with my "ex", I would take it, which is not true at all. I love my girlfriend and she is the only girl i'm ever thinking about. I'm devastated and pissed that I had a conversation with my ex 9 months ago, it was really wrong. I need help on how to convince my girlfriend that she really is the one, and try to get our relationship back on track.TL;DR: My(m21) girlfriend(f22) has been insecure about an ex girlfriend. Yesterday she saw a conversation I had with her 9 months ago, and i'm afraid our relationship will never be the same.
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