Boyfriend wants sex daily

tl;dr: Trying to deal with my boyfriend who has a high sex drive and is difficult to reach compromise with.

I've (M, 22) been dating my boyfriend (M, 29) for five months. Obviously we don't live together at this point. Regardless, he wants me to come over (since he lives alone, and I live in a dorm) every evening to have sex and/or sleep over. I'm usually on a busy schedule with remaining classes, working on my thesis and doing part-time work at a call center. Unless it's the weekend, I'm usually exhausted by the end of the day and don't have the energy or will to drive to his place, prepare for sex, have sex. Not to mention having to watch what and when I eat every single day (not going into the dirtier mechanics of anal sex, but you get the picture).

My boyfriend works a 9 to 5, doesn't do much else throughout the day. He barely ever cooks or does housework. So from his perspective, he doesn't understand why I'm so tired during the week and not always in the mood for sex. When I turn him down, he tends to get petty and the next time I ask for a favor, he'll say stuff like "well I'd do it, but I'm too tired". It's annoying and I don't know how to reach compromise. He isn't even satisfied with oral sex or masturbation because he considers it just foreplay, so what's the point of ending things there. But when I have sex with him without being in the mood, I don't even get anything from it.

Has anyone gone through this problem and if so, I'd appreciate your advice.

Submitted April 27, 2019 at 05:16AM

tl;dr: Trying to deal with my boyfriend who has a high sex drive and is difficult to reach compromise with.I've (M, 22) been dating my boyfriend (M, 29) for five months. Obviously we don't live together at this point. Regardless, he wants me to come over (since he lives alone, and I live in a dorm) every evening to have sex and/or sleep over. I'm usually on a busy schedule with remaining classes, working on my thesis and doing part-time work at a call center. Unless it's the weekend, I'm usually exhausted by the end of the day and don't have the energy or will to drive to his place, prepare for sex, have sex. Not to mention having to watch what and when I eat every single day (not going into the dirtier mechanics of anal sex, but you get the picture).My boyfriend works a 9 to 5, doesn't do much else throughout the day. He barely ever cooks or does housework. So from his perspective, he doesn't understand why I'm so tired during the week and not always in the mood for sex. When I turn him down, he tends to get petty and the next time I ask for a favor, he'll say stuff like "well I'd do it, but I'm too tired". It's annoying and I don't know how to reach compromise. He isn't even satisfied with oral sex or masturbation because he considers it just foreplay, so what's the point of ending things there. But when I have sex with him without being in the mood, I don't even get anything from it.Has anyone gone through this problem and if so, I'd appreciate your advice.