Im thinking of up with my boyfriend but I don’t know if I should be making big decisions right now.

So, I (17F) just started on antidepressants about a month ago. I haven’t been consistent with taking them so I know that they could be still be affecting me. I was told by my doctor that I shouldn’t be making big decisions while just starting and that they can really affect my mood and if I have side effects of depression I should stop taking them

Im kinda feeling depressed about this because I feel so lost but at the same time i don’t know if I’m rushing it or over thinking it.

So, I gave my boyfriend (17M) an ultimatum: he needs to make a little more time for me and text me more and do small romantic things (compliments, saying I’m thinking of you, that sort of thing) by next Thursday or Im breaking up with him. I told him that it doesn’t need to be full on romantic things, but I need to see that he’s willing to improve and wanting to be better to me. (He’s had a lot of problems with lying to me)

The reason I gave him this ultimatum is because I haven’t been feeling his love. I say cute things to him and he doesn’t really do them for me. He doesn’t make time the same way I do for him. I want to be with someone who loves me just as much as I love them and I’m not feeling that from him

Anyways, I’ve been really emotional about it lately. I told him yesterday that he has a week, but I’m already very depressed because it’s been about two days and there hasn’t been improvement. It hurts and it feels like he doesn’t care.

He says he loves me but doesn’t show it with actions. And that means a lot to me. I texted him and told him I’m thinking about breaking up about a half hour ago and he said he would text me in an hour and a half. I told him that’s why I feel this way, because he won’t make time for me.

Is it something I can save? Should I wait to make this decision until my chemicals in my brain are more balanced out? I don’t know what to do I feel so lost. I’ve been reading so many posts on this subreddit and when they end badly it makes me feel worse about this. I need positive things to keep me going right now and I’m not getting it anywhere and I need it from him

tl;dr I started antidepressants a month ago and haven’t been consistent with taking them, so right now my brain is pretty chemically unbalanced. I gave my boyfriend an ultimatum yesterday that needs to be done by next Thursday because he hasn’t been the best boyfriend for quite a few months. But tonight I told him I’m thinking about breaking up and I don’t know if I should wait to make big decisions



Submitted April 27, 2019 at 05:24AM

So, I (17F) just started on antidepressants about a month ago. I haven’t been consistent with taking them so I know that they could be still be affecting me. I was told by my doctor that I shouldn’t be making big decisions while just starting and that they can really affect my mood and if I have side effects of depression I should stop taking themIm kinda feeling depressed about this because I feel so lost but at the same time i don’t know if I’m rushing it or over thinking it.So, I gave my boyfriend (17M) an ultimatum: he needs to make a little more time for me and text me more and do small romantic things (compliments, saying I’m thinking of you, that sort of thing) by next Thursday or Im breaking up with him. I told him that it doesn’t need to be full on romantic things, but I need to see that he’s willing to improve and wanting to be better to me. (He’s had a lot of problems with lying to me)The reason I gave him this ultimatum is because I haven’t been feeling his love. I say cute things to him and he doesn’t really do them for me. He doesn’t make time the same way I do for him. I want to be with someone who loves me just as much as I love them and I’m not feeling that from himAnyways, I’ve been really emotional about it lately. I told him yesterday that he has a week, but I’m already very depressed because it’s been about two days and there hasn’t been improvement. It hurts and it feels like he doesn’t care.He says he loves me but doesn’t show it with actions. And that means a lot to me. I texted him and told him I’m thinking about breaking up about a half hour ago and he said he would text me in an hour and a half. I told him that’s why I feel this way, because he won’t make time for me.Is it something I can save? Should I wait to make this decision until my chemicals in my brain are more balanced out? I don’t know what to do I feel so lost. I’ve been reading so many posts on this subreddit and when they end badly it makes me feel worse about this. I need positive things to keep me going right now and I’m not getting it anywhere and I need it from himtl;dr I started antidepressants a month ago and haven’t been consistent with taking them, so right now my brain is pretty chemically unbalanced. I gave my boyfriend an ultimatum yesterday that needs to be done by next Thursday because he hasn’t been the best boyfriend for quite a few months. But tonight I told him I’m thinking about breaking up and I don’t know if I should wait to make big decisions
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