What was wrong in your unhappy, long term marriage and how did you finally fix it?

Been married for 10 years and husband has become more of a jerk with each passing year, made worse by financial issues right after having a kid. Refuses to go to therapy. Loves to complain, criticize, insult and say he doesn’t care. Hasn’t cheated or anything but loves going out with friends and pretending he is single in his 40’s by working out like crazy and going out with single friends 1-2 times a week. Sex is going away fast. It’s like a mid life crisis that keeps getting worse. If I complain it leads to fights I don’t want my child to see. Already been separated twice and not wanting to try that again. I tried therapy which only temporarily improved things. Even his parents say he has lost his mind and he thinks he is being cool by being the “brat” who will “never grow up.” Funny thing is to the outside world he’s the most mature and well put together man you will ever meet.

What’s your story and advice? Thanks



Submitted May 08, 2019 at 03:16AM

Been married for 10 years and husband has become more of a jerk with each passing year, made worse by financial issues right after having a kid. Refuses to go to therapy. Loves to complain, criticize, insult and say he doesn’t care. Hasn’t cheated or anything but loves going out with friends and pretending he is single in his 40’s by working out like crazy and going out with single friends 1-2 times a week. Sex is going away fast. It’s like a mid life crisis that keeps getting worse. If I complain it leads to fights I don’t want my child to see. Already been separated twice and not wanting to try that again. I tried therapy which only temporarily improved things. Even his parents say he has lost his mind and he thinks he is being cool by being the “brat” who will “never grow up.” Funny thing is to the outside world he’s the most mature and well put together man you will ever meet.What’s your story and advice? Thanks

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