NEW Relationship - prior wedding plans as a plus 1

OK, So I met and hit it off with a guy 2 weeks ago. We talked on FB for 6+ months.

Anyways, so like, he's pretty serious after the first date we had on 4/20 (there's since been a lot more - including car shopping.) I'm going with the flow and not trying to get super into a relationship that hasn't even made it to a month.

So I planned on going to a wedding as a plus one back in October. The wedding is next week. I'm going with my best friend, who's a male.

Now, the new boyfriend is sorta flipping out (this is on FB Chat.. can't really tell the anger or upset.) about me being someone's date.

I'm also driving 7 hours to get to Nebraska... so this isn't like I go for an evening of cocktails and dressing up. This is us hanging out and me sleeping on couches. I attended a wedding in Nebraska in October and I slept on the couch and he on his bed.

How do you guys feel if your new girlfriend was someone's date as a plus one to a wedding? It would be totally different had I been in the relationship when asked. I'd be perfectly fine if he was going with his best friend to a wedding! But I know some people just don't like it. Maybe, i'm too trusting...

I'm rambling...

give me your opinions.

EDIT: I went to a show last week and I didn't really care about his opinion on that either.... He got upset about that too.

My Best Friend's girl he was dating dumped him because I was going to the wedding ..... So I really don't care If i get dumped. 7.53 billion people on Earth ... I can find someone to bump uglies and put up with their bullshit (LOL)

EDIT 2: We've just discussed it.. he's calmed down. he's well aware I was in a controlling relationship/ jealousy and I won't put up with that. I will do what I want, when I want and see who I want. He's also aware I left my life for my son and when I have the chance to see any friends I'll do as I please. He can walk away at any time he feels that he's uncomfortable. However, we both communicated our feelings and worked it out. I just hope it stays this way...................................

I'll never put up with that shit again and he knows :)



Submitted May 07, 2019 at 05:07PM

OK, So I met and hit it off with a guy 2 weeks ago. We talked on FB for 6+ months.Anyways, so like, he's pretty serious after the first date we had on 4/20 (there's since been a lot more - including car shopping.) I'm going with the flow and not trying to get super into a relationship that hasn't even made it to a month.So I planned on going to a wedding as a plus one back in October. The wedding is next week. I'm going with my best friend, who's a male.Now, the new boyfriend is sorta flipping out (this is on FB Chat.. can't really tell the anger or upset.) about me being someone's date.I'm also driving 7 hours to get to Nebraska... so this isn't like I go for an evening of cocktails and dressing up. This is us hanging out and me sleeping on couches. I attended a wedding in Nebraska in October and I slept on the couch and he on his bed.How do you guys feel if your new girlfriend was someone's date as a plus one to a wedding? It would be totally different had I been in the relationship when asked. I'd be perfectly fine if he was going with his best friend to a wedding! But I know some people just don't like it. Maybe, i'm too trusting...I'm rambling...give me your opinions.EDIT: I went to a show last week and I didn't really care about his opinion on that either.... He got upset about that too.My Best Friend's girl he was dating dumped him because I was going to the wedding ..... So I really don't care If i get dumped. 7.53 billion people on Earth ... I can find someone to bump uglies and put up with their bullshit (LOL)EDIT 2: We've just discussed it.. he's calmed down. he's well aware I was in a controlling relationship/ jealousy and I won't put up with that. I will do what I want, when I want and see who I want. He's also aware I left my life for my son and when I have the chance to see any friends I'll do as I please. He can walk away at any time he feels that he's uncomfortable. However, we both communicated our feelings and worked it out. I just hope it stays this way...................................I'll never put up with that shit again and he knows :)
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