Convince me that OLD is a worthwhile endeavor

Somewhat recently divorced after over a decade, so Online Dating is not something I've ever even considered. In my head I thought it'd maybe be useful to filter folks to narrow options some (example: not interested in having more kids), but apparently not many of them do that (Bumble and Tinder don't I believe), but instead it sorta feels like a meat market, primarily or at least initially sorting based on looks, then some clues to an individual based on their blurb, and then you have to initiate something to even get a clue of anything further. And then you might get excited or curious about someone and then immediately find it just won't work out, that's a lot of emotional energy that doesn't seem super worthwhile. Maybe I'm overthinking all of it.
And yes, I think all those factors exist in real life interactions too, I just wondered if the OLD world had refined some of this more then it appears. The big plus of OLD it seems is just that there is a clear assumption folks are interested in one another where you have to navigate figuring that out and asking and risking rejection in real life.

I'd be curious of the benefits of doing OLD from folks, specifically folks recently out of long relationships, or co-parenting kids. I've read through a bunch of the older posts on here and just didn't see enough explanation of why OLD is worthwhile.

Submitted May 07, 2019 at 03:52PM

Somewhat recently divorced after over a decade, so Online Dating is not something I've ever even considered. In my head I thought it'd maybe be useful to filter folks to narrow options some (example: not interested in having more kids), but apparently not many of them do that (Bumble and Tinder don't I believe), but instead it sorta feels like a meat market, primarily or at least initially sorting based on looks, then some clues to an individual based on their blurb, and then you have to initiate something to even get a clue of anything further. And then you might get excited or curious about someone and then immediately find it just won't work out, that's a lot of emotional energy that doesn't seem super worthwhile. Maybe I'm overthinking all of it.And yes, I think all those factors exist in real life interactions too, I just wondered if the OLD world had refined some of this more then it appears. The big plus of OLD it seems is just that there is a clear assumption folks are interested in one another where you have to navigate figuring that out and asking and risking rejection in real life.I'd be curious of the benefits of doing OLD from folks, specifically folks recently out of long relationships, or co-parenting kids. I've read through a bunch of the older posts on here and just didn't see enough explanation of why OLD is worthwhile.