post break-up thoughts (after a 5 month dating-ship)

Hey guys,

I just wanted to share my feelings right now in where I feel is a safe space (usually). Maybe some of you can relate, or maybe some of you have kind words. Either way, I hope that posting this will be a little therapeutic for me, and for anyone else out there feeling the same way.

After 5 months of exclusively dating somebody, it’s finally over. I know, rationally, that we weren’t a good match and that we were two very different people. There’s more to the story, but that’s the very short version. Most of my feelings when I’m out and about are positive: this is finally a chance for you to love yourself, focus on your goals, and be the best you everyday without worrying about someone else.

But late at night, I find myself feeling inadequate and sad. I try to block those feelings. So I try to stay up doing things with my time (reading a book, texting, journaling) until I’m super tired, and can finally rest my head down right before I knock out.

It’s weird, knowing in your mind and gut that this person wasn’t a good fit. And yet, my heart still mourns it. It mourns what could have been, and it mourns over the time I spent trying to get to know someone and build something with them.

I know it’s part of the grieving process to let myself feel these feelings. And I eventually know I will. I haven’t cried yet because I’ve been trying to hard not to. But as I write this, I’m telling myself (and anyone else who can relate) that it’s okay to be sad and hurt. Even if you feel “they aren’t worth my tears” or if it ended very badly. Don’t forget: those tears aren’t for them, they are 100% for you.

Thank you for all the support and input you all had for me during my recent journey of dating. I know now, after a year and a half of being out there (after a 5 year relationship) that this is my time to finally focus on myself, and stop trying to find the one. My friend who swears she’s a fortune teller (lol) told me once she thinks this month I’ll meet my soulmate. Well, I have, and it’s myself :)

Submitted May 08, 2019 at 12:18AM

Hey guys,I just wanted to share my feelings right now in where I feel is a safe space (usually). Maybe some of you can relate, or maybe some of you have kind words. Either way, I hope that posting this will be a little therapeutic for me, and for anyone else out there feeling the same way.After 5 months of exclusively dating somebody, it’s finally over. I know, rationally, that we weren’t a good match and that we were two very different people. There’s more to the story, but that’s the very short version. Most of my feelings when I’m out and about are positive: this is finally a chance for you to love yourself, focus on your goals, and be the best you everyday without worrying about someone else.But late at night, I find myself feeling inadequate and sad. I try to block those feelings. So I try to stay up doing things with my time (reading a book, texting, journaling) until I’m super tired, and can finally rest my head down right before I knock out.It’s weird, knowing in your mind and gut that this person wasn’t a good fit. And yet, my heart still mourns it. It mourns what could have been, and it mourns over the time I spent trying to get to know someone and build something with them.I know it’s part of the grieving process to let myself feel these feelings. And I eventually know I will. I haven’t cried yet because I’ve been trying to hard not to. But as I write this, I’m telling myself (and anyone else who can relate) that it’s okay to be sad and hurt. Even if you feel “they aren’t worth my tears” or if it ended very badly. Don’t forget: those tears aren’t for them, they are 100% for you.Thank you for all the support and input you all had for me during my recent journey of dating. I know now, after a year and a half of being out there (after a 5 year relationship) that this is my time to finally focus on myself, and stop trying to find the one. My friend who swears she’s a fortune teller (lol) told me once she thinks this month I’ll meet my soulmate. Well, I have, and it’s myself :)